When A Marriage
may Cease to be A Bond?
"I really have
Failed - even in My Marriage! What Now?"
(are a more compassionate Biblical
interpretation of an ungodly marriage failure)
When A Marriage
may Cease to be A Bond By: Rich Puckett
("I was prayerfully meditating, dealing with
the reality of God's real, negative chastisement, punishment, which
includes divorce, for divorce is not one of God's initial blessing for all
who experience it.. Most anyone who has taken a University course in the
validity of "contract law" should know that both parties have to always
keep their agreements, neither parties can change any of the agreement on
their own too, and they do have to do and keep their part, and if one
party refuses to do so they now have wrongfully broken the contract
and can be rightfully penalized for doing so. If one spouse is too lazy or
too immoral to keep their part, and/or has lied in making the
contract the marriage contract will fail next, be invalid thus."Please see
also My marriage failed.. http://my.homewithgod.com/jtrendy/failed.htm
or Is divorce an option?
http://my.homewithgod.com/jtrendy/divorce.htm or Soul mate ? http://my.homewithgod.com/jtrendy/mate.html
)
I
must start by saying that not everyone will agree with me and can show
many reasons why they feel as to some of what I am about to say is wrong.
What I would like to do here is give a view that I have prayed much on and
feel is the true intent of Gods word to us. It is not an excuse to
separate or divorce but rather a real look at real life. I think God is
more gracious and understanding then we sometimes like to give him credit
for. I think that in our zeal to be obedient we sometimes misrepresent the
mind of God. Marriage and what God intended is often decided based on the
way that many leaders in the church interrupt the bible and not always
with peace being in mind. The union between man and woman is most
important and is liked always to the union between man and God, and more
so his church and Christ.
One issue is does God change? I have heard it taught
all my life that God does not change and is the same forever. Heb
13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.
The bible clearly say's that Christ is the
same and being that Jesus said that he and God were one, one could say the
same would hold true with God then. Yet there are many times record in the
bible where God in fact changed his mind and did something different then
he first intended to do. For example God was going to destroy all of the
children of Israel because of there sin in the wilderness but Moses cried
out to God in their behalf and pointed out that then the world would say
see there God lead them out to kill them. When he chose to destroy the
world by flood, he had planned to kill all the people on earth until he
saw Noah who was a righteous man. So is changing of mind the on a decision
the same as the man or in this case God changing. It is indeed splitting
hairs so to speak but yet important in how you view many things in his
word. I do think that God goal has never changed his desire to have people
love him and serve him out of love. I think that his methods have indeed
changed when something did not work.
When God created the world he gave no law, talked, and
walked with Adam. The only law was his words given directly to mankind.
The world did not obey him and sinned so he started over with Noah and his
family still no law was given but that of his will and left to man to do
it out of obedience. I think as God watched the world grow again he became
increasingly unhappy with man because man when left to deciding right from
wrong was like a kid in a candy store with out any restrictions. Thus
there came a time when God put a new plan together it was his law that he
gave to Moses to give to his people. When even with a set of written
stands and ideal God wanted his people to follow they still disobeyed, He
chose to send his son. I know many disagree with me on the plan some feel
it was always his plan to give his son's life on the cross, as I read the
bible and understand his word I do not agree. It was his plan to send his
son yes and for us to follow him and love him but I do not think at the
time he created this world he planned on his son dying on the cross.
The point is this, God, what he hated at the time he
gave the law I think he still hates today. His view has not changed just
his methods.
When God made man and placed him in the garden he saw
that out of all the creatures he had made there was no suitable spouse for
man.
Gen 2:15 And the LORD God took the man, and put him into
the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good
that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for
him.
Gen 2:19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every
beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to
see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living
creature, that was the name thereof.
Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the
fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there
was not found an help meet for him.
Gen 2:21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall
upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the
flesh instead thereof;
Gen 2:22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from
man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
Gen 2:23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and
flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of
Man.
NOTE: Adam made a
statement then God set a standard.
Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father
and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one
flesh.
Mark 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God
made them male and female.
Mark 10:7 For this cause shall a man leave his father
and mother, and cleave to his wife;
Mark 10:8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then
they are no more twain, but one flesh.
Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let
not man put asunder.
Mat 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not
read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and
female,
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave
father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one
flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one
flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
asunder.
What God joins let no man break apart or do away with.
This is very key to understanding the rest of what I have to say. You have
no doubt heard it said that is a marriage made in heaven. The truth is few
of the marriages are made in heaven or even with Gods seal on the union.
There was no ceremony here by man but it was a union blessed by God. There
are cases where God indeed chose the wife and led the man to her, take the
story of Rebekah.
Gen 24:48 And I bowed down my head, and worshipped the
LORD, and blessed the LORD God of my master Abraham, which had led me in the
right way to take my master's brother's daughter unto his son.
Gen 24:49 And now if ye will deal kindly and truly with
my master, tell me: and if not, tell me; that I may turn to the right hand,
or to the left.
Gen 24:50 Then Laban and Bethuel answered and said, The
thing proceedeth from the LORD: we cannot speak unto thee bad or
good.
Gen 24:51 Behold, Rebekah is before thee, take her, and
go, and let her be thy master's son's wife, as the LORD hath
spoken.
The fact is they did love each other and as the story
goes on you can see that. There is one more thing of great importance that
is that both Isaac and rebekah were people who loved God and chosen by him
they were his people.
Today more often then not people marry for
the wrong reason, and not out of love.
1 Cor 7:7 For I would that all men were even as I
myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner,
and another after that.
1 Cor 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows,
It is good for them if they abide even as I.
1 Cor 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry:
for it is better to marry than to burn.
Sex is a wonderful gift from God and allowed by God to
do several things. One it is the way to bring children in to our world.
Prov 17:6 Children's children are the crown of old men;
and the glory of children are their fathers.
Psa 127:4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so
are children of the youth.
Psa 127:5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of
them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in
the gate.
Two it is for pleasure between a husband and wife and
shows each other's love.
Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the
bed undefiled: but whoremongers and
adulterers God will judge.
1 Cor 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due
benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
1 Cor 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but
the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body,
but the wife.
There is one thing that you have that is yours and no
one else can give it away and that is love. It cannot be bought or stolen
only you can give it. The joining of flesh was intended to produce
children and to be witness of your love for each other. Yet at no time did
God ever sanction sex out side of marriage. In fact, the very act of sex
in the law was the conformation of a marriage. Today folks often give
their bodies to others in the mutual lust of the flesh and God does not
want this. A woman who had sex outside the realm of marriage was called a
harlot.
Gen 38:24 And it came to pass about three months after,
that it was told Judah, saying, Tamar thy daughter in law hath played the
harlot; and also, behold, she is with child by whoredom. And Judah said,
Bring her forth, and let her be burnt.
Lev 21:13 And he shall take a wife in her
virginity.
Lev 21:14 A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or
an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own
people to wife.
Lev 21:15 Neither shall he profane his seed among his
people: for I the LORD do sanctify him.
Judg 11:1 Now Jephthah the Gileadite was a mighty man of
valour, and he was the son of an harlot: and Gilead begat
Jephthah.
Judg 16:1 Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there an
harlot, and went in unto her.
Jer 3:1 They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go
from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall
not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many
lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.
Lust is the desire to have regardless of the cost its
like fire in the heart that if left unchecked will lead you away from God
and cause you to think and do things that he is not happy with.
Mat 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a
woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his
heart.
Rom 1:27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural
use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men
working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense
of their error which was meet.
Rom 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in
their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things
which are not convenient;
Rom 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness,
fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder,
debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Rom 1:30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud,
boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Rom 1:31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers,
without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
Rom 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they
which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have
pleasure in them that do them.
1 Cor 10:6 Now these things were our examples, to the
intent we should not lust after evil things, as they also
lusted.
1 Cor 10:7 Neither be ye idolaters, as were some of
them; as it is written, The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to
play.
1 Cor 10:8 Neither let us commit
fornication, as some of them committed, and
fell in one day three and twenty thousand.
1 Cor 10:9 Neither let us tempt Christ, as some
of them also tempted, and were destroyed of serpents.
1 Cor 10:10 Neither murmur ye, as some of them also
murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer.
1 Cor 10:11 Now all these things happened unto them for
ensamples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of
the world are come.
1 Cor 10:12 Wherefore let him that thinketh he
standeth take heed lest he fall.
1 Cor 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such
as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be
tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way
to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Gal 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye
shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
1 Th 4:3 For this is the will of God, even your
sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
1 Th 4:4 That every one of you should know how to
possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
1 Th 4:5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the
Gentiles which know not God:
1 Th 4:6 That no man go beyond and defraud his brother
in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also
have forewarned you and testified.
1 Th 4:7 For God hath not called us unto uncleanness,
but unto holiness.
James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is
drawn away of his own lust, and
enticed.
James 1:15 Then when lust hath conceived, it
bringeth forth sin: and sin,
when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
James 1:16 Do not err, my beloved
brethren.
God never wanted man and woman to have sex outside of
being married and to do so just destroys you. How can you have respect for
yourself if you violate your own body by giving it away as if it meant
nothing? You are Gods temple so if you defile your body you are defiling
Gods temple. This is of course if you are born again into Gods family. For
if, you have not been born again, or if you have not been converted and
adopted into his family, that opens a new issue.
1 Cor 3:16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God,
and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?
1 Cor 3:17 If any man defile the temple of God, him
shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye
are.
The unbeliever is dead until he comes to life by
Christ. Therefore, what ever a person has done is not important to God
when they come to him to be made whole. Yet it is important to you and
your future for when a man is looking for a wife he wants a virgin just as
the woman wants that too. Here are some reasons why, one is you want to
know the person is clean and is not defiled with decease many of which is
not seen with eye. You want to be able to set an example for your
children. In addition, deep in all of is this part in our heads we do not
want to be compared with someone else or their performance. It is natural
to that if you had been with someone else and were making love to your
spouse you would have doubts that would at some point creep in to your
head and wonder was he or she thinking of me and is it me bring them such
pleasure or are they thinking of some other person from the past. This
would then lead to bitterness in the heart, then the question would come
to mind, will they be faithful to me or seek to find someone that pleased
them more in the bed. There are many other points in all this that could
be made but that is not the focus of this writing. What is once two people
are marred and separation comes to be.
First, I hope no one ever marries for the
wrong reason, sex, lust, and companionship anything less then love. If you
do you will wake up someday unhappy wishing you had not for you will find
your life empty and hollow.
Notice the verses below be not joined to
anyone that is not a believer. If you are a Christian, a marriage with
someone who is not one too will only lead to two outcomes. One is they
give their heart to God, which is not most often the case. Two that it
causes you to fall back away from God and do things that would cause you
to fall away and lose your place in heaven. Men and women in order to have
peace in the home try to please the person they are with. Thus, you
compromise your walk with God. I cannot stress enough that while you shop
for a mate you shop for one that shares your dreams and loves and you love
should be God first always.
2 Cor 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with
unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with
unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2 Cor 6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial?
or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
2 Cor 6:16 And what agreement hath the temple of God
with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I
will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they
shall be my people.
2 Cor 6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and
be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I
will receive you,
2 Cor 6:18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye
shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord
Almighty.
Therefore, what do you do now, you are
married to a person who is a unbeliever and you have children. Yet your
life is in agony and your unhappy and he or she is unhappy. Well you
remember hearing someone say to you, you made your own bed now lie in it.
It is somewhat true; you must seek God and pray as you live your life
holy. This very act of living holy may cause many problems.
I know a man who married a woman that said she was a
Christian and went to church all the time. It wasn't until after they were
marred he found that she talked church and love but her life was far from
one of the love that God said you would know his people by. She hated him
and his work for God though she would play with serving God she loved sin
more. Many times he found her bitter and was always negative to about
everyone. Many times, she would lie to him repeatedly even about trivial
things. She would cheat, lie, and mistreat the children. She hated his
preaching and would try to cause confusion in every church they would go
to. More then once he had to bail her out of jail because she would write
checks with no money. Even at one point her bitterness was so strong she
tried to kill him are hurt him by running over him with the car. His life
was filled with pain but he loved her and tried to win her heart to him
and to God. He would get angry at her for the things she did, and do all
he knew to try to show her why it was wrong, and for awhile it seemed it
would work and she would go to a altar and become the sweetest person you
could no. Then when she would falter and make a mistake she would start to
lie and cover it up until it drove her farther away from him and God. You
see a marriage has to be one of trust and love with out trust becomes
empty. Many times over the 20+ years they were together people would come
to him and say you should leave her, the church once came and ordered him
to leave her and still he stood by her hoping that if he loved her enough
he would some how win her heart and she would see the love he had and the
love of God. In many ways this is a relationship much like God had with
Israel, he loved them always, forgave them many times and always wanted
them to love him back. He even gave his son in hopes they would love him
because of the son. This man had children with his wife, and tired to give
her all the things on earth she wanted to all of his ability but nothing
worked. Why do you think he did not leave, although he hurt so much so
often. It was two fold one he loved her, and two he loved God more then
himself. Then two he thought to of his children and their need for their
mother so he stayed.
Paul tells us below that if you find yourself a
child of God and in a marrage like that or worse you must stay. The child
of God cannot leave but is to strive to win the spouse to God. Just as
Isreal had a choice each spouse has choices to love, honor and so forth or
to live a life of sin. No matter how great the sin is that they do
except for the cause of fornication then they are bound
together.
Mat 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put
away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit
adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth
adultery.
1 Cor 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her
husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be
married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
Yet, what happens if the unbeliever leaves on
there own? Let me say it is hard to know who is or is not a child of
God's. For how person stands with God is not for use to judge.
Yet when two become married they become one and the works of the other
will tell and show what you are. You might fool the church, you might fool
those you work with but you will not fool the people you live with. You
cannot say you are of God and be a liar, a thief, someone who curses and
does all manner of evil. Well I guess you can say it but your own fruit
say you are not, so it is just one more lie.
If that person leaves then Paul says there is
no bond. The reason is simple, because a person that is not Gods is
Satan's and are dead until they come to life. The issue then
becomes can they marry again? If there is no bond, then its if there was
no marriage in my thinking. Thus, I think this is one time in which you
could marry again and it not be adultery. While you were married God
saw the believer and because of that, one recognized the marriage, once
that person chose to leave then the bond was gone and the covenant broken.
Just as God took his promise and gave it to all of us because Israel was
not faithful to him.
Therefore, the first step would be to
purify your heart with God, seek his forgiveness, for there is a issue of
sin, and wrongdoing. Did you knowingly marry someone that was not a
Christian? If you did not like the above example then all you can do is
seek to do your best for God and go forward. Trust him and his forgiving
power and seek to find the person this time God sends to
you.
"Yes I know many pastors will not agree with
me, most of the learned will say this is wrong, yet I can say this your
life is not over but a new chapter has begun so go forward and live for
God. But you still can only marry the person God has chosen for you,
a christian one too. (Rom 14:5 KJV) Let every man be
fully persuaded in his own mind. for there are clear examples when divorce
people remmarried and lived a goldy life such as Dale Eavns the wife of
the famous cowboy Roy Rogers. but don't ever seek a divorce that is
sin still."
1 Cor 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not
I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her
husband:
1 Cor 7:11 But and if she depart, let her
remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put
away his wife.
This is the first commandment that he gives us God
wants us to remain married and at peace with each other and him. This is
also to those that both are believers. The
following verses are to those where only one is really a child of
God.
1 Cor 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord:
If any brother hath a wife that believeth
not, and she be pleased to
dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1 Cor 7:13 And the
woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to
dwell with her, let her not leave him.
The believer may not kick the other out or dispose of
them, but his or her love for God must extend to the spouse just as Christ
extends his love for us.
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the
body.
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto
Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every
thing.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave
himself for it;
Eph 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with
the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 That he might present it to himself a
glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that
it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as
their own bodies. He that loveth his wife
loveth himself.
1 Cor 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is
sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the
husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they
holy.
Because you become one when you are married the union is looked upon as
holy, this does not mean that both will make it in to heaven because one
served God and the other one did not. For every person shall answer to God
based on who and what they are not based on who or what their spouse was.
1 Cor 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let
him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but
God hath called us to peace.
If they are not willing to love you and do Gods will
and chose to leave let them go. Moreover, any bond that was there is no
longer in effect. God wants peace at home, as much as he wants it in his
church. If two people really love each other, they will seek to find the
road of peace putting the other before themselves.
1 Cor 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether
thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou
shalt save thy wife?
James 5:19 Brethren, if any of you do err from the
truth, and one convert him;
James 5:20 Let him know, that he which converteth the
sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall
hide a multitude of sins.
We always have a mission, at home, at work, at school,
at the market, where ever we are and its to save souls, to lead them to
Jesus. So then we must not give up but hold the course and do all we can
do. It may cause you great pain and be so hard at times you do not know
how to go on, trust God he is there. In the story above that man came home
one day to find her gone, oh she told all kinds of lies and did all she
could to cause him to give up on life. He felt like a failure and the only
thing that kept him alive was that someone reached and reminded him God
had not left him she had. See for even in all the pain, the lying the
other things over the years he loved her. Moreover, he had been happy not
always with her or what was going on but with God. So there was always in
him peace even while war was raging, trust God and give of what you have
yourself, you do the right thing, let them stand before God being in the
wrong not you.
I hope some of you find some hope and help in this.
You decide if you agree or accept this for your own life. It is just the
way God led me, and this is not an effort to tear down anyone's faith or
teaching but to confirm to you that are lost and feel hopeless that if you
look deep into his word, you still have breath, so you can go on for God.
I love you who I have not seen
I care about your hopes and dreams
So, let me help to carry your load
Let me pray with you
You are not alone,
I have walked where you walk now
I have felt the pain
I have felt so lost
When I looked for the church
They were sleeping
Thought I was not worth a look
Someone cared and called my name
Reminded me God was there
Therefore, I seek not to please the church
I seek to please the one who wrote the book
So my friend you walk a long
Nevertheless, you are never alone
My prayers are with you each day and night
I pray you will always see the light,
And that the wounds on you soul
Will be healed with Gods love and hope.
Thank you for reading and thinking bout the studies
and thoughts God has given to me, God blesses you for he loves
you.
My revision version of 'I
failed'
Failed in your career, job, finances, health,
and you want my help too? well this Message clearly also indicates
that continuing too look for comfort, support mainly, directly from
any man and women, spouse even, relatives, pastors, lawyers,
governments, included when we have suffered negative even
like divorce, any other items is still really dangerous.. for
personally like it or not we need to keep our eyes always still
only on God and get his help, guidance. Like it or not
half of all my counseling is still related to broken marriages, one's need
for friendship which next is still too often even abused, and
we do have all of these now hurt people stuck in now a
wasteland who next cannot go on too. Go back or go on to what? just more
hurts?
"I really have
Failed - even in My Marriage! What
Now?
(Rom 8:28 KJV) And we know that all
things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the
called according to his purpose.
"I Failed " some would say and other may wrongfully replied so
what, showing they really don't care especially about you and your hurts,
and we get hurt, angry bitter some more.
WOW! "I have
failed, I am really hurt and upset at it", This is something I run
into still too often it seems."I REALLY STILL CAN'T MAKE THINGS TO
COME BACK TO THE WAY THEY WERE BEFORE". Maybe you really are not meant
to? I find that I talk to so many in life and on the Internet
that feel so guilty and lost because somewhere they have messed up. and
they now do want still to have back now their old ways they had
before.
(1 Ki 8:46 KJV) If
they sin against thee, (for there is no man that sinneth not,) and thou be
angry with them, and deliver them to the enemy, so that they carry them
away captives unto the land of the enemy, far or near; 47 Yet if they shall bethink themselves in the land whither
they were carried captives, and repent, and make supplication unto thee in
the land of them that carried them captives, saying, We have sinned, and
have done perversely, we have committed wickedness; 48 And so return
unto thee with all their heart, and with all their soul, in the land of
their enemies, which led them away captive, and pray unto thee toward
their land, which thou gavest unto their fathers, the city which thou hast
chosen, and the house which I have built for thy name: 49 Then hear
thou their prayer and their supplication in heaven thy dwelling place, and
maintain their cause, 50 And forgive thy people that have sinned
against thee, and all their transgressions wherein they have transgressed
against thee, and give them compassion before them who carried them
captive, that they may have compassion on them: (Heb 8:12 KJV) For I
will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their
iniquities will I remember no more.
Then what is the
point of God, or of living if we cannot have our way?
(Mark 8:33 KJV) But when he
had turned about and looked on his disciples, he rebuked Peter, saying,
Get thee behind me, Satan: for thou savourest not the things that be of
God, but the things that be of men.
(Luke 4:8 KJV) And Jesus
answered and said unto him, Get thee behind me, Satan: for it is written,
Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou
serve.
(Mat 16:23 KJV) But he
turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an
offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but
those that be of men.
That is part of the real main
problem we have been living our own selfish ways and the devils. those of
other men and women, and not God's way, will firstly. (Prov
14:12 KJV) There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the
end thereof are the ways of death.
(Isa 66:3 KJV) He that
killeth an ox is as if he slew a man; he that sacrificeth a lamb, as if he
cut off a dog's neck; he that offereth an oblation, as if he offered
swine's blood; he that burneth incense, as if he blessed an idol. Yea,
they have chosen their own ways, and their soul delighteth in their
abominations.
(Isa 66:4 KJV) I also will
choose their delusions, and will bring their fears upon them; because when
I called, none did answer; when I spake, they did not hear: but they did
evil before mine eyes, and chose that in which I delighted not.
(Isa 66:5 KJV) Hear the
word of the LORD, ye that tremble at his word; Your brethren that hated
you, that cast you out for my name's sake, said, Let the LORD be
glorified: but he shall appear to your joy, and they shall be ashamed.
6 A voice of noise from the city, a voice from the temple, a voice
of the LORD that rendereth recompense to his enemies.7 Before she
travailed, she brought forth; before her pain came, she was delivered of a
man child.
(Isa 43:19 KJV) Behold, I
will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I
will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the
desert.
(Psa 37:25 KJV) I have been
young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his
seed begging bread.
(Jer 51:5 KJV) For Israel
hath not been forsaken, nor Judah of his God, of the LORD of hosts; though
their land was filled with sin against the Holy One of Israel.
God will do
a new thing, he will change you, your OWN heart, your own soul
if you let him firstly.
God will now next personally
really help you, forgive you when you fail but he will not always still
necessarily restore your old marriage, your old job, or what you lost,
your money, house and your health included. Sometimes you have to go
on.. (Phil 3:13 KJV) Brethren, I count not myself to have
apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are
behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
(Phil 3:14 KJV) I press
toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ
Jesus.
(Phil 3:15 KJV) Let us
therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in any thing ye
be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto
you.
Well let me also now start by
saying, nothing I’m going to say here is intended to take away any of the
responsibility towards your past, existing marriage, of still even trying
to make it work, or to make light of wedding vows. Nor I am not going to
try and hold you blameless for mistake either, or my self. For we all sin
and fail, we are sinners and we are not perfect and we need to see we do
fail due to even our own sins, admit them, ask for God's forgiveness, help
to go on. To go on where God leads us not where we want to go
still.
(Psa 37:23 KJV) The steps
of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his
way.
I think I
understand many of the battles that you also do fight because I too
have been there now firstly.
And I am not going to go through
all my own problems are why the marriage didn’t make it. I equally take
the blame on myself, if I would have done many things different maybe we
would have made it. After all 26 years is a long time to be with someone,
and to have three wonderful kids, to have spent all my life and my wife’s
life in church, what went wrong? The bottom line is both of us
failed, we took our eyes off God and focused on ourselves, no we didn’t
know we were, we didn’t plan on it, yet we did. The
last symptom about my own failures was that once the bond of
trust is broke you are on an up hill battle from there on. What breaks
that bond of trust is not just a husband or wife cheating or flirting with
the opposite sex, it is not just how they handled
the money, the lies you told each other. The unacceptable lack of
real love, inability wrongfully to forgive by one spouse has caused, lead
to the divorce procedure.. Theses sins lead to more disasters. And the
negative Symptoms can be a big sense of the other person
not loving enough or lack of showing love. Still the reasons for the break
up are many, on both of the spouses part, and they can be
eventually understood, and this here is not intent of what God is
placed on my heart it is not to try and tell you now how maybe
you can o fix the damage in a failed marriage in a few minutes, which is
unlikely in every troubled marriages still too, but to address mainly
those people that the marriage clearly has ready failed and are they now
headed for the divorce courts. To talk to those that could people still
maybe restore the home front but not guaranteed to do so still. Since both
parties likely relay need to change too often and one can wrongfully still
refuse to do so. The other one may have to go on. Go on to what you may
say? God on with and to God firstly.
If the marriage still has
any hope and you are headed for destroying that wrongfully there will be
more pain too but what if it is relay too late now , too wrong to do
so? Impossible you mat say? Maybe I say!
First thing you
still do have to do, do it right now. Is forgetting about taking your own
life or someone else's... Revenge.. A Normal selfish and common
temptation when a marriage is being ended. Why start there? Because two
out of three Christians I talk to that are facing a broken marriage are
also fighting the resulting still deep depression and the satanic real
urge to take their or someone else's life. Satan the accuser of the
brethren and their past life, failure, pride is hurting them and their
failures continue to remind them they have failed and continue more to
hurt them too, they are still now solely concentrating on self, not
God even. Their relationship has mainly been around themselves and their
spouse clearly too, and wrongfully had left God out of the picture almost.
So know they do not know relay what to do and suicide, revenge on others
is the first common and wrong knee jerk reaction.
Many people sent
high standards for themselves that most of us will fail and we next will
personally greatly be disillusioned, depressed. We failed to understand
what has let to our depression and failures as well.. Ambition and lust
Goals not set by God but by ourselves and other people.
Lets look next at this kind
of resulting failure depression a moment, many do not understand it
at all, they just can’t understand how anyone would ever consider next
suicide, violence, revenge as a valid way of solving their problems.
Most people that reach this
place are still real people and if you see them on the surface you
really won’t even know it. They sit in church ever week, they smile, they
joke, they go to their jobs and perform well. They mostly aren’t out
drinking or doing illegal drugs, they have kids and homes, and a broken
heart, a marriage that has already failed or about too. They don’t sit and plan to do it, it and the devil it sort of
sneaks up on them. In their hearts they know initially it's
wrong, but the mind and head just won’t shut up.
At first persons from a troubled
marriage felt they are deeply hurting because they felt still so
alone inside, and then if left alone even physically as well the weight
next still becomes even more unbearable. So they do try to take the hint
from books, tapes, bad friends, some even learn to talk I mean really talk
to each other, make time to listen, to hold, to show love and caring and
yet they cannot resolve the problem for the problem is also the other
persons often. They can say I care, I love you, but if you or they
can’t talk, if you or they don't, can’t listen to each other, if you are
married and can’t still feel the pain in your heart for your spouse you
are both in for really big troubles. And you next should not leave them
alone, for long periods of time, you are clearly asking for a quicker
failed marriage. If the spouse has to relocate due to what ever
reason go with them. If your husband has to drive over the road, and then
you go with him, learn to drive a truck too. If you love your wife and
Christ maybe you should consider a job in a factory, or selling shoes
before you leave your spouse behind because next the real the pain without
them next will almost kill you still too.. People too often and bad
pastors, bad counselors too try to take the supposedly easy way, the
way out of the marriage and it turns out to be the long wrong hard way for
them in reality personally still. Why
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For the
LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for
one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of
hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not
treacherously.
(Mal 2:17 KJV) Ye have
wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied
him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the
LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of
judgment?
(Deu 12:8 KJV) Ye shall
not do after all the things that we do here this day, every man
whatsoever is right in his own eyes.
The resulting marital, divorce
depression slips in, the hours of watching TV, soon you don’t even know
what was on, you don’t hear the words, then you find you don’t want to go
to the store by yourself, you don’t want to eat, cause nothing is worse
then eating alone. Who really enjoys sitting in a restaurant with no one
across from you? You next even find no joy in a movie or going any place
so you sit alone. You find yourself reaching out to just talk to anyone,
thus chat rooms, and ICQ, and still all of this is a sure way to end up
getting hurt more, and more but why? Firstly you are trying to fill in the
God shaped vacuum in your own life with a replacement for God himself
likely still.
(Jer 2:13 KJV) For my
people have committed two evils; they have forsaken me the fountain of
living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can
hold no water. (Jer 4:22 KJV) For my people is foolish, they have
not known me; they are sottish children, and they have none
understanding: they are wise to do evil, but to do good they have no
knowledge. (Jer 4:23 KJV) I beheld the earth, and, lo, it was
without form, and void; and the heavens, and they had no
light.
Really do now Stop
taking worldly advice of Looking to be loved, looking
for love in the wrong places and this still is what most people do
wrongfully next too.
(Jer 29:32 KJV) Therefore
thus saith the LORD; Behold, I will punish Shemaiah the Nehelamite, and
his seed: he shall not have a man to dwell among this people; neither
shall he behold the good that I will do for my people, saith the LORD;
because he hath taught rebellion against the LORD.
Looking for, to
the first substitutionary spouse, person that
seems to care about you. You are so hungry to want to be loved and feel
needed, trouble is most are dogs in worse places and shape then you are.
Many people do lie to you and give you bad advice, for they still mostly
seek only what you can do for them personally physically, while there are
some wonderful people even on the net, but I assure you most are not. Not
even in churches. Why be surprised, they are the
same people you see in the grocery store and wouldn’t even consider to
carry your bags to the car for you. Yet on the net you may become
invisible and so are they, you let go a side of you, you never show when
eyes are upon you. You may unload your heart, to people on the net, at
work, at churches, elsewhere and then you find out the truth too late,
they really don't care to help you, they only pretended they did, and you
are even more crushed. You many next find some of the
words of love and all the sweet messages,even the small gifts
exchanged, even the casual meeting were all designed maybe to solve
a need of being alone or wanting sex and not so much really them
personally still caring for you, or really wanting you mow too and you
will be more disappointed, more depressed.
(Mat 6:31 KJV) Therefore
take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or,
Wherewithal shall we be clothed? 32 (For after all these things do
the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need
of all these things. 33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and
his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall
take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the
evil thereof.
You still may seek
to have your friendship need fulfilled. But the person you are
talking is seeking something else totally differently still.
It is a fact is that you will end up being hurt at least
three to five times next even by people you think love you even on the net
before you may even find one that is sincere. Well that certainly
doesn’t means that people, even churches, even the net is not a way
to find someone again next in your life. Just face it knowing they
are on the net are really still unresolved troubled persons also looking
for the same reasons you are. They are hiding in a way from the world;
this is a easy way to cover something up. You say how
can I be so sure? The real undeniable experience and the words of so many
that have counseled and that have been there. The critical point here also is that is any relationship that even
has to start with deceit or a lie is one bound for failure even
friendship. Most people lie every 3 to 5 minutes still. I met a
person that says they just want a friend, sends me a picture, weeks
later after in fact we found we could be friends, and he next says said
gee I’m sorry I didn’t send you my real picture. I asked why? Because I am
only 5 feet tall and weigh 260 pounds. Why am I saying
all this, because it leads to deep sense of lost inside, you end up
feeling you can trust no one at all. No one really cared about the real
you.
So another important
lesson : Be honest 100% from the beginning, while you do also use
appropriate declare too, and accept nothing less than full honesty
from all those you do talk to. Don’t add to the pain, the
frustration and fear of the truth coming out but don't accept the liars
still too If you are fat, bald, bad eyes, no leg, been divorced ten
times, gone to jail, what ever don’t fully hide it. If a person is worth
being a friend to, and if they are worth falling in love with you must
always still be open and honest. Any Relationships built on
dishonesty, false pretenses cannot work next for the good of both parties.
Likely this was why the first relationship you had with your sponsor,
pastor, spouse, relative had failed you, they had leaned how to
deceive, lied to you.
Now too often still you
find yourself afraid to even trust those that call themselves Christians
for they too have and do let you down. Again why be surprised? These
are the same type of people that sit in the church ever Sunday, sing there
songs, preach, and smile at you and shake your hand hoping you sit in the
back away from them. The same ones that see you in a short dress and
wrongfully think I wonder how she is in bed, while they shake your
hand and smile and say oh God is so good, and its so good to see you. They
hope you go to the choir and sit on the front bench and they too do
forget to put your knees together when you sit down. They are the
same women that may flirt with you with their eyes and hold your hand to
long, the ones that you know and so does anyone else paying attention is
also in trouble at home with her hubby. They never talk, never are
together and body language says for all to hear, I wish he would sit some
place besides by me. O.K. I’m being blunt and honest, let me go ahead, if
I’m going to be in trouble let me go all the way. There really is nothing
good in most men and women in reality.. beware of men.
(Mat 7:15 KJV) Beware of
false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they
are ravening wolves. 16 Ye shall
know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of
thistles? 17 Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit;
but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. 18 A good tree
cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth
good fruit. 19 Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is
hewn down, and cast into the fire. 20 Wherefore by their fruits ye
shall know them. 21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord,
shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my
Father which is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me in that day,
Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have
cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23 And
then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that
work iniquity. 24 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of
mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his
house upon a rock: 25 And the rain descended, and the floods came,
and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it
was founded upon a rock.
It’s the same too often bad
preacher that while he’s praying for you, he really likes laying on of
hands, he hopes you will fall out in a way that gives a good view, he
wants to hug and you can feel he pulls you a little closer then he should.
He’s the guy that can’t take his eyes off you while he preaches, and
always seems to find a way to talk to you, oh asking such innocent
questions. he has wrong, false motives for caring about you
too.
My advice is learning to
read the signs in person and that will help you to read them on the net
too. Its no wonder you feel so alone and lost and with out hope, 80% of
the Christians should be called Satan's followers still, for they are not
truly of God. I’m sorry I too have spent all my life in church and around
preachers, I have learned more dirty and slanted jokes from them then on
any job. I have them make more comment bout the ladies in a suggestive way
then the guys at work, at least the ones at work do it in the open, and
you know what they are.
Mat 7:15 Beware of false prophets, which come to you in
sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening
wolves.
Let me say
preachers are human, just like you are, so they mess up. The problem isn’t
messing up it’s the undeniable and unrepented of hypocrisies that’s still
their problem.
1 Pet 1:25 But the word of the
Lord endureth forever. And this is the word which by the gospel is
preached unto you.
1 Pet 2:1 Wherefore laying
aside all malice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all
evil speakings,
All this
adds to a greater feeling of lost hope, you pray and God don’t hear you?
Have you been there, I have and what do you do
then?
Mat 5:44 But I say unto you,
Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate
you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute
you;
Mat 5:45 That ye may be the
children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to
rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on
the unjust.
Mat 6:5 And when thou prayest,
thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing
in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be
seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.
Mat 6:6 But thou, when thou
prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray
to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret
shall reward thee openly.
Mat 6:7 But when ye pray, use
not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall
be heard for their much speaking.
Mat 6:8 Be not ye therefore
like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of,
before ye ask him.
Mat 6:9 After this manner
therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy
name.
Mat 6:10 Thy kingdom come. Thy
will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Mat 6:11 Give us this day our
daily bread.
Mat 6:12 And forgive us our
debts, as we forgive our debtors.
Mat 6:13 And lead us not into
temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the
power, and the glory, forever. Amen.
Mat 6:14 For if ye forgive men
their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
Mat 6:15 But if ye forgive not
men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your
trespasses.
Mat 6:16 Moreover when ye fast,
be not, as the hypocrites, of a sad countenance: for they disfigure
their faces, that they may appear unto men to fast. Verily I say unto
you, They have their reward.
Mat 6:17 But thou, when thou
fastest, anoint thine head, and wash thy face;
Mat 6:18 That thou appear not
unto men to fast, but unto thy Father which is in secret: and thy
Father, which seeth in secret, shall reward thee
openly.
This next verse is one we should
be doing before we get in trouble not wait till we are all ready. It’s a
part of the preventive medicine.
Mat 26:41 Watch and pray, that
ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the
flesh is weak.
Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto
you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive
them, and ye shall have them.
Mark 11:25 And when ye stand praying,
forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in
heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
Mark 11:26 But if ye do not forgive,
neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your
trespasses.
O.K. here is a big key as to why you
still can’t be heard. You are hurting, your husband, wife, friend, lover,
or pastor, church member, son or daughter have all hurt you. You can’t
receive anything from God till you forgive yourself and them too, and how
do you know you have really forgiven them? Forgiving them means
letting God now himself deal appropriately with them as he wants and not
you. After all that is his job still and not yours.
(Rom 14:4 KJV) Who art thou that
judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth.
Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him
stand.
(Isa 63:4 KJV) For the day of
vengeance is in mine heart, and the year of my redeemed is
come.
(Rom 12:19 KJV) Dearly beloved,
avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is
written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the
Lord.
Thus by forgiving them and when
the bitterness is gone, when the anger is gone, in its place you feel
rather next really sorry for them and you will even pray for them and ask
then also to repent.
I know someone that went to a motel to
meet a preacher, one that said he was in love with her. And being her
marriage was over, and so was his, this was supposed to be new beginning
of life a spiritual marriage between to soul mates till the legal ones
took place. Oh he was so hot to trot he paid for the rooms, they had
talked on the phone and over the net and it was true love and happiness,
till he kissed her and saw she weighed 200 lbs. He left her there, sneak
away, now he’s Dr. Tim ____________ and is still leading other ladies to
the motel room. Thank God this lady was a little heavy and didn’t go to
bed with him for it wasn’t a marriage of souls he wanted, he wanted a
marriage of meeting the supposed problem in his pants. If it were of souls
would size have mattered, no. The real shame is he might be your pastor
right now, it destroyed her for long time. One day he too may or will see
he has failed his wife, and his church, and most of all God.
So don’t hold on to him or it but let
God handle him or her. You seek God and let God show you what to do.
The thing is though when this happens
something in you snaps, you still may feel so lost so alone, you may take
pornography instead, bury yourself in food, into trying to do more good
works to get favour with others, or drinking more alcohol, taking bad
drugs, or you grab a bottle of pills you just take em. You cut your
wrists, you grab that old gun off the shelve, I should be dead today and
many of you, but for some reason God saved us. The reason is you still
have a work to do for him and for yourself and he still wants you to
be happy. Firstly
Mark 13:33 Take ye
heed, watch and pray: for ye know not when the time is.
Mark 13:34 For the Son of man is as a
man taking a far journey, who left his house, and gave authority to his
servants, and to every man his work, and commanded the porter to
watch.
Mark 13:35 Watch ye therefore: for ye
know not when the master of the house cometh, at even, or at midnight,
or at the cock crowing, or in the morning:
Mark 13:36 Lest coming suddenly he
find you sleeping.
Mark 13:37 And what I say unto you I
say unto all, Watch.
(Acts 9:31
KJV) Then had the churches rest throughout all Judaea and Galilee
and Samaria, and were edified; and walking in the fear of the Lord, and
in the comfort of the Holy Ghost, were multiplied.
(2 Cor 1:4
KJV) Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able
to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we
ourselves are comforted of God. 5 For as the sufferings of Christ
abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ. 6 And
whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which
is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also
suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and
salvation. 7 And our hope of you is stedfast, knowing, that as ye
are partakers of the sufferings, so shall ye be also of the consolation.
8 For we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble
which came to us in Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above
strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life: 9 But we had
the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in
ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead: 10 Who delivered us
from so great a death, and doth deliver: in whom we trust that he will
yet deliver us;
OK do you really want to die in that
really unspirtual condition now as well, no. you know you don’t.
Here it is folks, you can’t help it, and the body reacts as if on its own.
Someone needs you, just like you had needed someone. Be also there for
them, and trust God. be a good friend and not a bad one for them
too.
Luke 10:2 Therefore said he unto them,
The harvest truly is great, but the labourers are few: pray ye therefore
the Lord of the harvest, that he would send forth labourers into his
harvest.
Luke 10:3 Go your ways: behold, I send
you forth as lambs among wolves.
Now you have your mission in life. But I
messed up my marriage is gone, my wife is gone, my husband is gone, I’m
not happy. SO?
Mat 10:28 And fear not them which kill the
body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is
able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
If you think your life is hell now, my
dear friend you have no ideal how bad it is to lose your soul. Ok you
messed up, you failed, some of those Christians (satians) will condemn you
and not except you anymore. Gee the church may not let you preach anymore.
LOL (laughing out loud) Like who called you to preach, who ordained you,
Gal 1:10 For do I
now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet
pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
Gal 1:11 But I certify you, brethren,
that the gospel which was preached of me is not after man.
Gal 1:12 For I neither received it of
man, neither was I taught it, but by the revelation of Jesus
Christ.
So why are you so worried bout those
that haven’t learned to forgive or understand, those that think they stand
so mighty and right, the only ones saved.
Mat 10:17 But beware of men: for they
will deliver you up to the councils, and they will scourge you in their
synagogues;
Mat 10:18 And ye shall be brought
before governors and kings for my sake, for a testimony against them and
the Gentiles.
Mat 10:19 But when they deliver you
up, take no thought how or what ye shall speak: for it shall be given
you in that same hour what ye shall speak.
Mat 10:20 For it is not ye that speak,
but the Spirit of your Father which speaketh in you.
Mat 10:21 And the brother shall
deliver up the brother to death, and the father the child: and the
children shall rise up against their parents, and cause them to be put
to death.
Mat 10:22 And ye shall be hated of all
men for my name's sake: but he that endureth to the end shall be
saved.
Mat 10:23 But when they persecute you
in this city, flee ye into another: for verily I say unto you, Ye shall
not have gone over the cities of Israel, till the Son of man be
come.
Mat 10:24 The disciple is not above
his master, nor the servant above his lord.
Mat 10:25 It is enough for the
disciple that he be as his master, and the servant as his lord. If they
have called the master of the house Beelzebub, how much more shall they
call them of his household?
Mat 10:26 Fear them not therefore: for
there is nothing covered, that shall not be revealed; and hid, that
shall not be known.
Mat 16:6 Then Jesus said unto them,
Take heed and beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and of the
Sadducees.
Mat 16:12 Then understood they how
that he bade them not beware of the leaven of bread, but of the doctrine
of the Pharisees and of the Sadducees.
Mark 12:38 And he said unto them in
his doctrine, Beware of the scribes, which love to go in long clothing,
and love salutations in the marketplaces,
Mark 12:39 And the chief seats in the
synagogues, and the uppermost rooms at feasts:
Mark 12:40 Which devour widows'
houses, and for a pretence make long prayers: these shall receive
greater damnation.
Ok admit it was the way I once was too,
I thought the rulebooks were the way to go, that I had the answers was
always right. And don’t this sound a lot like your pastor? He can’t wait
to lay hands on everyone, he can’t wait to put on his robe and sit in his
big chair on the stage, he brags bout the people he knows, couldn’t say a
real prayer cause he don’t know how to pray. Ok so you don’t like it the
way I see it I’m sorry. I have been almost ever kind of church in America
and those verses hit home with most pastors and preachers. In case I miss
something look at this one, how many times do you hear bout money in the
church? Look in the parking lot, what kind of car is your preacher driving
while you can’t afford a good heap. What kind of suit does he have on,
ever notice how many AG preachers that have big diamond
rings?
Luke 12:15 And he said unto them, Take heed, and beware
of covetousness: for a man’s life consisteth not in the abundance of the
things which he possesseth.
Word of advice to church members a
preacher that also handles the church money your asking for trouble. Not
because he means to be a theft, but why would you want your husband or
wife to live with the opposite sex and them naked. You don’t think
something would evenly happen that shouldn’t, wrong.
Phil 3:2 Beware of dogs, beware of
evil workers, beware of the concision.
Col 2:8 Beware lest any man spoil you
through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after
the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Col 2:9 For in him dwelleth all the
fulness of the Godhead bodily.
Col 2:10 And ye are complete in him,
which is the head of all principality and power:
Luke 6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not
be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye
shall be forgiven:
Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given
unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running
over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye
mete withal it shall be measured to you again.
John 3:17 For God sent not his Son
into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him
might be saved.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is
not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because
he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of
God.
God is not condemning you for messing
up you are condemning yourself. Stop it. Who cares if others don’t know
what God is telling you. You know!
John 8:10 When Jesus had lifted up
himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are
those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
John 8:11 She said, No man, Lord. And
Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no
more.
John 8:12 Then spake Jesus again unto
them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall
not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of
life.
Rom 8:8 So then they that are in the
flesh cannot please God.
Mat 12:41 The men of Nineveh shall
rise in judgment with this generation, and shall condemn it: because
they repented at the preaching of Jonas; and, behold, a greater than
Jonas is here.
Mat 12:42 The queen of the south shall
rise up in the judgment with this generation, and shall condemn it: for
she came from the uttermost parts of the earth to hear the wisdom of
Solomon; and, behold, a greater than Solomon is
here.
Look Christ is out leader our savior, he
loves you, he is whom you serve, and he is not here to condemn you. He is
not here to say your life is over cause your marriage failed. You can’t
undo what you did or your spouse did but you can go on and serve him.
1 John 3:20 For if our heart condemn
us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.
1 John 3:21 Beloved, if our heart
condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God.
1 John 3:22 And whatsoever we ask, we
receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things
that are pleasing in his sight.
1 John 3:23 And this is his
commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ,
and love one another, as he gave us commandment.
1 John 3:24 And he that keepeth his
commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he
abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
1 John 4:1 Beloved, believe not every
spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false
prophets are gone out into the world.
1 John 4:2 Hereby know ye the Spirit
of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the
flesh is of God:
1 John 4:3 And every spirit that
confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and
this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should
come; and even now already is it in the world.
1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little
children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you,
than he that is in the world.
So where do we go how do we win? How can
I get back right with God? You can not undo the wrongs you done. You can
say you’re sorry, you can pay restitution, you can still not undo what is
done, but you can go forward. You can learn from it and be better for the
lessons you have learned.
just when you are the lowest and the
storms are high..
there is a wind that blows in the
sky,
the clouds they gather dark and
drear.
the wind it blows and the storm seem
worse here,
then the clouds by the winds strong
tide,
as if by there own break apart and
hide,
and then they are gone.
and sunlight beams across the
sea
and we wonder why the storm had to
be
but the beauty of the sun would have
been missed
if in this life all was
bliss,
so be not frightened of where you
are,
hang in and you will live to see the
stars
I wrote this poem the other nite while
talking to a friend that is just where this talk is. My heart bleeds for
my friends who find them selves in this place. You see I was there and I
need help, someone that would show me the right things. Instead I found
the pastors I had known for years condemned me. I got email telling me how
I was bound for hell. Funny they never asked if I had done all these
things tossed at me, I was just guilty. You know they didn’t look to see
what blame my wife may of shared, it was all me. I’m sure you have been
there too. Then thank God there are Christians, who did reach out, they
did the best thing they could do. Let me talk, listened and did not ever
once condemn me, they prayed, I was on so many pray lists, and they loved
me. Some called me long distance, some gave me there numbers and said just
call collect. I cry now for these are real men and women of God. They
never cared if it was she or I, they just wanted one thing, me to be right
with God again and go forward. So thank you my friends, Thank you Dawn,
and Hillary, Sabrina, Jezz, Terry, Brenda, Deena, Merry, Sharon, and so
many more but most of all thank you God. You sent me Linda, and we make a
great team serving you again.
What I had to do so will you! Forget
bout blame, you are guilty as much as the one that hurt you.
Mat 3:2 And saying, Repent ye: for the
kingdom of heaven is at hand.
Mark 1:15 And saying, The time is
fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the
gospel.
Luke 13:3 I tell you, Nay: but, except
ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
Luke 13:4 Or those eighteen, upon whom
the tower in Siloam fell, and slew them, think ye that they were sinners
above all men that dwelt in Jerusalem?
Luke 13:5 I tell you, Nay: but, except
ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
Acts 2:38 Then Peter said unto them,
Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for
the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy
Ghost.
Acts 3:19 Repent ye therefore, and be
converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of
refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;
Acts 3:20 And he shall send Jesus
Christ, which before was preached unto you:
Acts 3:21 Whom the heaven must receive
until the times of restitution of all things, which God hath spoken by
the mouth of all his holy prophets since the world began.
Acts 3:26 Unto you first God, having
raised up his Son Jesus, sent him to bless you, in turning away every
one of you from his iniquities.
Acts 4:1 And as they spake unto the
people, the priests, and the captain of the temple, and the Sadducees,
came upon them,
Acts 4:2 Being grieved that they
taught the people, and preached through Jesus the resurrection from the
dead.
Acts 8:22 Repent therefore of this thy
wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be
forgiven thee.
Acts 8:23 For I perceive that thou art
in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity.
Acts 17:30 And the times of this
ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to
repent:
Rev 2:4 Nevertheless I have somewhat
against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.
Rev 2:5 Remember therefore from whence
thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come
unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place,
except thou repent.
Rev 2:14 But I have a few things
against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of
Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of
Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit
fornication.
Rev 2:15 So hast thou also them that
hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitanes, which thing I hate.
Rev 2:16 Repent; or else I will come
unto thee quickly, and will fight against them with the sword of my
mouth.
Rev 2:20 Notwithstanding I have a few
things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which
calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to
commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.
Rev 2:21 And I gave her space to
repent of her fornication; and she repented not.
Rev 2:22 Behold, I will cast her into
a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation,
except they repent of their deeds.
Rev 2:23 And I will kill her children
with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth
the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to
your works.
Rev 3:2 Be watchful, and strengthen
the things which remain, that are ready to die: for I have not found thy
works perfect before God.
Rev 3:3 Remember therefore how thou
hast received and heard, and hold fast, and repent. If therefore thou
shalt not watch, I will come on thee as a thief, and thou shalt not know
what hour I will come upon thee.
Rev 3:18 I counsel thee to buy of me
gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment,
that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not
appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest
see.
Rev 3:19 As many as I love, I rebuke
and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
Rev 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door,
and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in
to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
Luke 17:3 Take heed to yourselves: If
thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive
him.
Luke 17:4 And if he trespass against
thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee,
saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.
2 Cor 7:3 I speak not this to condemn
you: for I have said before, that ye are in our hearts to die and live
with you.
2 Pet 3:17 Ye therefore, beloved,
seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away
with the error of the wicked, fall from your own
stedfastness.
2 Pet 3:18 But grow in grace, and in
the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both
now and for ever. Amen.
So what are you waiting for, you messed
up, you failed, you thought and maybe even tried to take your life, you
are miserable, give it up go pray, pray what with repentance, without
bitterness or anger, and you will win to be the best Christian you can be.
In fact I think you can do more for God then most others because you have
also realy been there. Remember you are loved, I
love you and though I haven’t seen you, I care and know not your name, but
we shall meet some day, we have much in common you and I, lets meet in a
few years on the street of gold, you know the place by the crystal sea,
we’ll sit down on the banks and not remember any of the pain we have
here.
God Bless you my friend
2 Cor 13:11
Finally, brethren, farewell. Be perfect, be
of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and
peace shall be with you.
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The Marriage and Divorce of Christian
persons
The Bible is clear in its teaching that the marriage
relationship is a permanent one. I also have never read one verse in the
Bible where God approved divorce OF TWO BELIEVERS IN JESUS CHRIST. The
whole idea of divorce is diametrically opposed to the marriage plan as it
was instituted by God. Mind you not everyone who professes to be a
christian now realy is as well,
From the very beginning God intended one
man for one woman and no more. Marriage is for life.
The person who utters the solemn vow, “Till
death do us part,” and practises divorce is a liar and a
hypocrite. Remember, God still holds the marriage
contract.
(Psa 73:6 KJV)
Therefore pride compasseth them about as a chain; violence covereth them
as a garment.
(Ezek 18:4 KJV) Behold, all souls
are mine; as the soul of the father, so also the soul of the son is
mine: the soul that sinneth, it shall die. 5 But if a man be just,
and do that which is lawful and right, 6 And hath not eaten upon
the mountains, neither hath lifted up his eyes to the idols of the house
of Israel, neither hath defiled his neighbour's wife, neither hath come
near to a menstruous woman, 7 And hath not oppressed any, but hath
restored to the debtor his pledge, hath spoiled none by violence, hath
given his bread to the hungry, and hath covered the naked with a
garment;8 He that hath not given forth upon usury, neither hath
taken any increase, that hath withdrawn his hand from iniquity, hath executed true judgment between man and
man,
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For the LORD, the
God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the
LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not
treacherously.
GOD HATES DIVORCE AND EVEN ANY OF THE PASTORS WHO COUNSEL
DIVORCE THEY WILL ALSO NEXT WILL REAP NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES, A GARMENT OF
VIOLENCE AS WELL...
(Gal 6:7 KJV) Be not deceived; God
is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also
reap.
(Gal 6:8 KJV) For he that soweth to
his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the
Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life
everlasting.
Reality, let me
say that sexual lust is the majority cause of most of the divorces, of the
union of gays, lesbians, and that sadly in my own expereinces many
pastors, Evangelical, Pentecostal ones too, are still wrongfully sex
addicts, thus they wrongfully want to keep the option of divorce open for
themselves in case their spouse longer meets their OWN sexual
needs. They are carnal, serving the flesh and not God still..
I know I have firsthand often exposed, fought and fired many such bad
unrepenting Church pastors WITH GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS AND SUPPORT. One
specific unrepentant pastor that I knew who counseled divorce
clearly as witnessed by his neighbors even next lost the ability to
love his own wife and his own children next.. such is
reality..
(Gal 6:9 KJV) And let us not be
weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint
not.
(Gal 6:10 KJV) As we have therefore
opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are
of the household of faith.
The Lord Jesus Christ could not be in
disagreement with His Father's ruling on the permanency of marriage. He
said, “Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made
them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father
and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one
flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore
God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:4-6; Mark
10:6-9 cf. Genesis 2:24).
If you want a happy life and a happy
marriage, abide by God's rules and shun the demon of divorce.
Beware of all teaching and teachers,
whether in or out of the organized church, which speak of “scriptural
grounds for divorce.”
Such “grounds” are based on a single parenthetical phrase,
“except it be for fornication” (Matthew 5:32; 19:9). Formication is
a forbidden act of still unmarried persons. Divorce here alone also is an
option and not madndatory . In the entire context in which our Lord
is still teaching the permanency, or indissolubility of the marriage
relation." Note
the clear distinction between the words “fornication” and “adultery.”
These two words are not used interchangeably because they are not
synonymous in their meanings. The word “fornication” (Gr. porneia) means “illicit
sexual intercourse of unmarried persons.” The
word “adultery” (Gr. Moikeia) means “illicit sexual intercourse of
two persons when either is married to a third person.” In the exception
clause our Lord used the word “fornication.” The word He used had not lost
its meaning, and we may be certain He expressed Himself clearly.
The exception clause is not dealing with the
sin of married persons.
Why then did Christ use the word “fornication” of that sin of
which a “wife” can be guilty?
A wife in the Orient was so called when the
betrothal or engagement was announced. This is evidenced in Matthew
1:19 where we read, “Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not
willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.”
Actually he was not her husband by the standards of
our western civilization because there had not been the consummation of
the civil ceremony nor the marriage act. Mary's pregnancy was
looked upon (by those who did not know the truth) as the result of
fornication, not adultery. In verse 20 the angel added, “Joseph, thou son
of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife.” According to our
Western usage of the word “wife” she was not yet Joseph's wife, but by the
custom of the Jews, a betrothed girl was called a wife. (See Deuteronomy
22:23-24.) Joseph accepted the testimony of the angel, believing that Mary
had not committed fornication. Our Lord's enemies would not believe the
truth about his supernatural and miraculous conception, and so they
taunted Him with the innuendo, “We be not born of fornication” (John
8:41). The parenthetical phrase, “except it be for
fornication” does not fit the case of married persons. Our Lord is merely
saying that sexual unfaithfulness on the part of either party involved
in a betrothal agreement, allows for the
breaking of that contract. God's rule that marriage is for life has never
been annulled.
(Once your are married there is no divorce
allowed..)
Listen again to jesus Christ speaking on this . “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another
committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her
husband committeth adultery” (Luke 16:18). This verse might appear
to be disconnected from the rest of the passage, but actually it is an
essential part of the context. The Pharisees had derided Christ for His
teaching in the parable in verses 1-12. While they were legalistic in
their demands upon others, insisting that Moses' laws be obeyed, they were
guilty of breaking those same laws . . .
In answering their ridicule, Christ said, “The law and the
prophets were until John: since that time the Kingdom of God is preached
. . .” (vs. 16). He defends the law of Moses in verse 17, and
immediately follows with His “Kingdom of God” teaching about marriage. The
marriage rule in verse 18 preceded and superseded the Law of Moses. This
is God's rule for His people.
Now examine our Lord's words in Mark 10:11,12. “And He saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife,
and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall
put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth
adultery.” In both the Mark and Luke passages there is not the
“exception” clause. The word “adultery” is used, The message is
unmistakably clear. The demon of divorce is
condemned.
Recently I read again Malachi 2:11-16. I am convinced
that the prophet was strongly persuaded that God was not hearing the
prayers of His people because of the multiple divorces in Israel at that
time. What Malachi wrote indicates clearly that God hates
divorce."
Dr.L Strauss Download Word Document http://bible.org/docs/splife/chrhome/mad.htm
(Mat 19:3 KJV) The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting
him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife
for every cause?
(Mat 19:8 KJV) He saith unto them, Moses because of the
hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from
the beginning it was not so.
(Mark 10:11 KJV) And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put
away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
(Psa 37:27 KJV) Depart from evil, and do good; and dwell for
evermore.
(Psa 37:28 KJV) For the LORD loveth judgment, and forsaketh
not his saints; they are preserved for ever: but the seed of the wicked
shall be cut off.
(Psa 37:29 KJV) The righteous shall inherit the land, and
dwell therein for ever.
(Psa 37:30 KJV) The mouth of the righteous speaketh wisdom,
and his tongue talketh of judgment.
There rightfully is no doubt by my own personal experience that
Money hungry Hirelings, morally incompetent Evangelicals Pastors
are in a hurry to spread their faith for hopeful more monetary gains
do even falsely counsel marital divorce, and aid in breaking up homes if
necessary to do this if necessary especially in Calgary, Canada and even
in other parts of Canada. All Pastor should work only towards
reconciliation. And no ifs, buts about it now too. As to the mostly
pretentious , inadequate evangelical Pastors in Canada, God and I
still rightfully also do not accept rightfully their wrong doings quietly
anymore too. God does not overlook these still unrepentant sins..
(Nahum 1:3 KJV) The LORD is slow to anger, and great
in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD hath his way
in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his
feet.
(Prov 29:18 KJV) Where there is no
vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
Here is some more irony, the last verse is one of the most misquoted
verses too that I have come across.. the people who quote it leave out the
part "but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." any proper pastoral
vision must include him or her observing still God's laws.. all of them
now too. That includes God's laws on divorce.. there is no divorce for two
married Christian believers under any circumstances.. under any
circumstances.. God said so. ( Unless one Christian has clearly renounced
God-- and it can , does happen too)
I had also now written in detail to
many Pastors across Canada about my experiences in Calgary's evangelical
Churches where too many spouses have filed for divorce cause they firstly
did not have an adequate relationship with God, they did not have a real
faith in God, thus wrongfully they were initiating divorce cause they were
still mostly following their wicked reasons, sinful lusts, even desire to
have more sex, money, power, and material things too.. they were now still
followers of Satan rather and not of the Lord Jesus Christ.
(Prov 16:25 KJV) There is a way
that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of
death.
The Human mind is very deceptive, so is the
related human logic and the rather twisted incomplete reasoning data
we have tends to make it worse, and this is really all because part of the
corrupted, fallen human nature resulting when Adam and Eve
Sinned.. Thus even today Man, sadly many bad pastors do take
the very simple clear Bible verses and try to twist them to their
false lusts. Simple clearly verses made by Jesus even like these
ones..
(Mark 10:9 KJV) What therefore God hath joined
together, let not man put asunder.10 And in the house his disciples asked
him again of the same matter.11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever
shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against
her.12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to
another, she committeth adultery.
How clearly can it be? and yet
next like Eve's temptation in the garden of Eden
I have noticed
that when I want to rightfully evaluate if a pastor, a professing
Christian leader is right before God, has actually been called by God, I
first do look not only at the types of books he personally reads,
but I also evaluate his attitude towards money, sex, divorce and I look at
how he treats others in reality. I have generally found out that when a
pastor is corrupted he tends to be also corrupted in all of these
areas too.
We do also need to be rightfully concerned now
about the lost professing believers as well..
(Luke 15:7 KJV) I say unto you, that likewise
joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over
ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance.
(Luke 15:3 KJV) And he spake this parable
unto them, saying, 4 What man of you, having an hundred sheep,
if he lose one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the
wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it? 5 And
when he hath found it, he layeth it on his shoulders, rejoicing. 6
And when he cometh home, he calleth together his friends and neighbours,
saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my sheep which was
lost.
Note specifically the promise of personally
reaping "a garment of violence" for those who practiced
divorced.
(Prov 16:25 KJV) There is a way
that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of
death.
"Man too often still tries to do away with God's laws on
marriage and to do away with God's laws of no divorce and
wrongfully.. Unhappy supposedly Christian spouses even in
evangelcial Chruches wrongfully want to divorce but also want to
remarry, for they wrongfully cannot accept the will of God laid out
for them, or God for that matter in reality.. a false sexual lust is part
of the main problem.. but also more it is a real personal lack of
faith in God.. even a lack of faith in (Rom 8:28 KJV)
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God,
to them who are the called according to his purpose... and that now means
now your supposedly bad marriage or your past divorce now as
well..
The real lack of faith in God causes these people to
wrongfully consider alternative explanations, alternative approaches
to God's ways? Sound very familiar.. dioes it now remind of Abraham and
his wife Sarah? where Sarah had added a human approach wrongfully to
God's way, will.. to get a son ! (Gen 16:1 KJV) Now Sarai Abram's
wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian,
whose name was Hagar.2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD
hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may
be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of
Sarai. Sarah next lived to regret her wrong humanistic approach as
well to God's plan, will.. (Gen 16:4 KJV) And he( Abraham)
went in unto Hagar, and she conceived: and when she saw that she had
conceived, her mistress was despised in her eyes. 5 And
Sarai said unto Abram, My wrong be upon thee: I have given my maid into
thy bosom; and when she saw that she had conceived, I was despised in her
eyes: the LORD judge between me and thee. God next returned
Abraham to God's original will, for Abrham to have a son through his
original wife as well. (Gen 17:15 KJV) And God said unto
Abraham, As for Sarai thy wife, thou shalt not call her name Sarai, but
Sarah shall her name be.16 And I will bless her, and give thee
a son also of her: yea, I will bless her, and she shall be a mother of
nations; kings of people shall be of her.
(1 Tim 6:17 KJV)
Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor
trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all
things to enjoy;18 That they do good, that they be rich in good works,
ready to distribute, willing to communicate;19 Laying up in store
for themselves a good foundation against the time to come, that they may
lay hold on eternal life. 20 O Timothy, keep that which is committed to
thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science
falsely so called: 21 Which some professing have erred
concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen.
So all things do
work out for the good of those who love God, but the evil persons
rather fall into the pit they dug with their own hands still, next..
that includes divorce now too.. Too many times today many people even
supposedly Christian persons they do take an ostrich approach to the
Bible, and their unrepentant sins.. they do wrongfully deny the Bible,
History that there will be any negative consequences too for
it..
(Jer 8: KJV) 5 Why then is this people
of Jerusalem slidden back by a perpetual backsliding? they hold fast
deceit, they refuse to return. 6 I hearkened and heard,
but they spake not aright: no man repented him of his wickedness, saying,
What have I done? every one turned to his course, as the horse rusheth
into the battle. 7 Yea, the stork in the heaven knoweth her
appointed times; and the turtle and the crane and the swallow observe the
time of their coming; but my people know not the judgment of the
LORD. 8 How do ye say, We are wise, and the law of the LORD is
with us? Lo, certainly in vain made he it; the pen of the scribes is in
vain. 9 The wise men are ashamed, they are dismayed and taken:
lo, they have rejected the word of the LORD; and what wisdom is in
them?
(We see do today see ample evidence today
of pastors even distorting what they Bible actually says.. even on issues
like divorce.. God says no divorce.. no abortion.. no murder... and no
gays.)
10 Therefore will I give their wives unto
others, and their fields to them that shall inherit them: for every one
from the least even unto the greatest is given to covetousness, from the
prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely.
( if you
look at this verse clearly you will see that divorce is God's punishment,
never a blessing too.)
11 For they have healed the hurt of
the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when there is no
peace. 12 Were they ashamed when they had committed
abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush:
therefore shall they fall among them that fall: in the time of their
visitation they shall be cast down, saith the LORD.
( bad pastors will also pay a price for their lying,
unrepentant sins.. that is why so many of them commit adultery now
still)
13 I will surely consume them, saith the LORD:
there shall be no grapes on the vine, nor figs on the fig tree, and the
leaf shall fade; and the things that I have given them shall pass away
from them.
(James 4:1 KJV) From whence come wars and
fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in
your members? 2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have,
and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume
it upon your lusts. 4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not
that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore
will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. 5 Do ye think
that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth
to envy? 6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God
resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. 7 Submit
yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your
hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 9 Be
afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning,
and your joy to heaviness. 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord,
and he shall lift you up. 11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He
that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil
of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a
doer of the law, but a judge. 12 There is one lawgiver, who is able
to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?
(James
3:12 KJV) Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either
a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him show out of
a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14 But if ye
have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not
against the truth. 15 This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is
earthly, sensual, devilish. 16 For where envying and strife is,
there is confusion and every evil work. 17 But the wisdom that is
from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be
entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without
hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of
them that make peace.
God has a good reasons for all of us
obeying his laws on marriage and no divorce now too...
(Rom
11:33 KJV) O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and
knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past
finding out! 34 For who hath known the mind of the Lord? or who hath
been his counsellor? 35 Or who hath first given to him, and it shall
be recompensed unto him again? 36 For of him, and through him,
and to him, are all things: to whom be glory for ever. Amen.
(Mal 2:15 KJV) And did not he
make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he
might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none
deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.16 For the
LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one
covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore
take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. 17
Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we
wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight
of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of
judgment?
Like so many other Biblical
doctrines, social issues man mostly still perverts them.. that
includes the topic of divorce too.. because of unbelief in God and lust
too..
Now I have validly made up my mind on the
subject by doing a very thorough bible study of the topic.. but if you
were to next read many other persons views they are so contradictory even
amongst each other.. and I said God do I have to God now even deal with
all of this time consuming, conflicting presentations now again on
the subject of divorce and remarriage? And I was next surprised by
God's quick answer, his voice to me directly.. "I hate divorce" and I have
personally told you that clearly before too.. and " I also hate,
strongly dislike, oppose any Minister who counsels divorce".. well that
was a quick and simple study.. and when anyone deviates from God's
marriage standard they become a deviate.. a pervert.. Ministers of
Justice, Prime Ministers, Presidents and this deviation leads to
more and more social problems, social conflicts and not less.. you had
started on a very downhill rocky, rough road when you became a deviate, a
pervert.
(Rom 1:16 KJV) For I am not ashamed of the gospel of
Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that
believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. 17 For therein
is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is
written, The just shall live by faith. 18 For the wrath of God is
revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men,
who hold the truth in unrighteousness; 19 Because that which may be
known of God is manifest in them; for God hath showed it unto them.
20 For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world
are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his
eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: 21
Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither
were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish
heart was darkened. 22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became
fools, 23 And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an
image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts,
and creeping things. 24 Wherefore God also gave them up to
uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own
bodies between themselves: 25 Who changed the truth of God into a
lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is
blessed for ever. Amen. 26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile
affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that
which is against nature: 27 And likewise also the men, leaving the
natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men
with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that
recompense of their error which was meet. 28 And even as they did
not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a
reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29
Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness,
covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit,
malignity; whisperers, 30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful,
proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural
affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32 Who knowing the judgment of
God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do
the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
(2 Pet 2:18
KJV) For when they speak great swelling words of vanity, they allure
through the lusts of the flesh, through much wantonness, those that were
clean escaped from them who live in error. 19 While they promise
them liberty, they themselves are the servants of corruption: for of whom
a man is overcome, of the same is he brought in bondage. 20 For if
after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge
of the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again entangled therein,
and overcome, the latter end is worse with them than the beginning.
21 For it had been better for them not to have known the way of
righteousness, than, after they have known it, to turn from the holy
commandment delivered unto them. 22 But it is happened unto them according
to the true proverb, The dog is turned to his own vomit again; and the sow
that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.
An immoral person had sent me an offer to
purchase his useless book on the Christian's right of divorce and
remarriage. He said a second marriage was often better than the first.. He
is clearly a learned deceiver, unbeliever in God, he does work for
the devil.. I rightfully replied to him that I did not need more
toilet paper I had enough, and I also rightfully told him I did not need
someone to lie to me as to what was in the Bible for I do regularly read
the Bible for myself. I also told him that I do not need to read a book
written by a hireling prostitute. He is using the book to conduct
seminars.. Yes I do rightfully have a problem and so should we all
with the so called but still very immoral Christians persons, rather
thieves who are still trying to make money from the Gospel, Bibles, tapes,
videos, Books, seminars now as well. So should we all. For I
issue all my helps free.. and only false prophets like this false
Minister do ask for and take early earthly monetary rewards for
supposedly serving God. I also told this false Minister
that God and Jesus spoke to me but it was very clear not to him..
for this Minister he does not really know God, Jesus or the Bible's
actual teachings..
Needless to say he was very upset at me.. and
replied and said to me that I needed to repent for being unloving and
unforgiving towards divorced persons.. but I am really still also sure he
does not even know what the word "repent" means. It really means saying to
God, God I have sinned, I have not obeyed your very clear
commandments in the Bible for a start too even on being married only to
one wife and no divorce, I will now obey them and please forgive me for
not doing so before. Now let God lead you as to what the right thing is
for you to do next as well.. are you a Christian Divorced from a Christian
spouse? then you have no right to a remarriage still till your spouse
dies.. Not my rule, but God's.
(1 John 1:9 KJV) If we confess
our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse
us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:10 KJV) If we say that we have not
sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.
Wounded marriages facing divorce can be made whole but very
unlikely by Canada's at least 70 percent still ungodly, immoral, lustful
pastors, evangelical ones included who wrongfully take the false,
supposedly easier way by counseling , recommending divorce.. I know
what I am talking about I only helped to remove many of them, very
poor pastors from their churches in Canada, including three founding
church pastors now as well. and what has the Mother in law to do with it?
Recently it was in the sate of Washington where a police chief even shot
his wife.. and recently the news media reported that Restraining order
served on B.C. man hours before wife, mother-in-law slain- - MISSION, B.C.
-- A man was being sought after his wife and mother-in-law were shot to
death at a hospital had been served with a restraining order hours earlier
for harassing his wife, RCMP said.. This same person later shot and
killed himself when the police had found him.
These deaths are
tragic and likely could have been prevented here and elsewhere too now
..if they had been adequately dealt with next not by easy divorce,
restraining orders but by the proper pastoral counseling.. something our
ostrich oriented justice ministers wrongfully try to hide from, and
I don't really blame them when 70 percent of the pastors are crooked
themselves in Canada. In reality more women are filing for divorce than
men, and more of them in western Canada than the east per capita.. but
adultery is also wrongly rampant there too..
If a pastor,
counselor, husband wants to successfully deal with this he needs
also to deal and expose these three items
A
women tends not to file for divorce unless
1: She already in
her mind, or in reality has a sexual partner substitute..
2: She
has built up or acquired a cash reserve for the lawyers, divorce court
battles..
3: She has the wrong immoral support of her family,
friends, associated, community to carry out this wrong adulterous
divorce..
Thiose are the facts of life as Jesus told me relating to
divorce..
- A women has the false immoral support of her
family, and false friends, sadly even pastors, when she applies for
divorce.. they are immoral like her and they need to be told this
too.. do not hesitate to tell them the whole truth
- A women
does not file for divorce unless she in her own real mind she has a
substitute sex partner planed next already too.. she will next rush to
him.. even though it is mostly also a fantasy not known to others ..
unrealistic expectations of life.. a key contributory cause to the sexual
divorces mostly today... but you had already agreed with this I
see..
- Also do tell Her the wife that before she tries to
remove the beam from her husband she needs to still first deal with the
beam in her own eye.. first and she needs to let Jesus still make any of
the changes in the marriage .. in his time and his way..
- A women
also does not file for divorce unless he has at least 10- 15,
000 dollars stashed away to pay the lawyers, and she also expects to make
money form the divorce.. and that still makes her an sexual and now
economic prostitute.. admit it or not this is a fact.
- and the way
she is now treating her husband is the sadly way she responds to God as
well in realty and that too still is unacceptable.
(Eph 5:23
KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the
head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore
as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own
husbands in every thing.
I also whole heartily agree that a wife going behind her
husband's back to her relatives, to her pastors, to others is immoral.. is
a sin of rebellion as well and I pray she also really now, next repents of
this and stops doing this as well.
All the cases where I was able
to reconcile the partners, they had to admit. deal with the truths... in
other words they had to repent, of these sins, admit how sinful they
themselves were, are. .. all of them.. and the still lazy people who do
now really not stay in God's word, cause they are spoiled rotten and
undisciplined now too God in irony allows them to be divorce, to be
punished..
Now I have often seen, encountered this pattern.
For example I had told one of my business partner that his wife was having
an affair and was apllylling to divorce him.. he totally disbelieved me..
could I blame it.. it is a shocking jolt to the system. I knew it cause
she had asked me out on a date that I had rightfully turned down. He was
now troubled by what I had said and he went home and thought about.. He
decided that he would go through his wife personal affairs and discovered
that she had salted away, hidden from him 15,000 dollars. He had
found a bank deposit book in one of her boots. But this man denied his
wife was filing for her divorce or was having an affair. A few weeks later
during a heated quarrel with his wife, his wife blurted out, you are
not the only one I have slept with, I have slept with two other guys now
as well.. A few months later she field for divorce and divorce him. The
15,000 dollars was given to her by her brother for the divorce..
.
(Prov 31:12 KJV) She will do him good and not evil all the
days of her life.
(Exo 20:14 KJV) Thou shalt not commit
adultery.
(Exo 20:17 KJV) Thou shalt not covet thy
neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his
manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing
that is thy neighbour's.
(Mat 5:28 KJV) But I say unto you,
That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed
adultery with her already in his heart.
(Mat 5:32 KJV) But I
say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause
of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry
her that is divorced committeth adultery.
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For
the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away:9
Divorce) for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD
of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not
treacherously.
I want you also to specifically also not still
note God's warning of promise of clothing of violence will follow in the
future all of those who DO STILL pursue divorce..
Many people
get depressed rightfully when they do really see what other people
are really like today... even among their own bad family members, bad
pastors, bad elders, bad politicians, bad lawyers.. etc. It is still a sin
to follow men over God as well.
God is not taken by surprised by
any of this he still has all things under control
(2 Pet 2:7
KJV) And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy
conversation of the wicked: 8 (For that righteous man dwelling among
them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with
their unlawful deeds;) 9 The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly
out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to
be punished:
(John 2:24 KJV) But Jesus did not commit himself
unto them, because he knew all men, 25 And needed not that any
should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.
Sadly divorce
is on the increase even among Christians wrongfully , with more women
filing for divorces than men as well
Telling all the parties the
truth is the first part.. you can start by sending them this.. if
you really do now want to fully help, deal with this
practically.
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For the LORD, the God of Israel,
saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his
garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that
ye deal not treacherously.
(Jer 5:8 KJV) They were as fed
horses in the morning: every one neighed after his neighbour's wife. 9
Shall I not visit for these things? saith the LORD: and shall not my soul
be avenged on such a nation as this?
(Jer 9:1 KJV) Oh that my
head were waters, and mine eyes a fountain of tears, that I might weep day
and night for the slain of the daughter of my people! 2 Oh
that I had in the wilderness a lodging place of wayfaring men; that I
might leave my people, and go from them! for they be all adulterers, an
assembly of treacherous men.
(Isa 6:5 KJV) Then said I, Woe
is me! for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in
the midst of a people of unclean lips: for mine eyes have seen the King,
the LORD of hosts.
(Jer 23:9 KJV) Mine heart within me is
broken because of the prophets; all my bones shake; I am like a drunken
man, and like a man whom wine hath overcome, because of the LORD, and
because of the words of his holiness. 10 For the land is full of
adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places
of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force
is not right. 11 For both prophet and priest are profane; yea, in my house
have I found their wickedness, saith the LORD.12 Wherefore their way
shall be unto them as slippery ways in the darkness: they shall be driven
on, and fall therein: for I will bring evil upon them, even the year of
their visitation, saith the LORD.
Firstly a wife (or a husband) who is proceeding with
divorce is being led by her sexual hormones, lusts , and that is the
number one reasons for almost all of the divorces by women as well today..
they watch too much sex on TV, women's magazines, advertisements and they
think they should have the same life.. sex does not make one happy.. Jesus
alone does. (Psa 51:10-12 KJV) "Create in me a clean heart, O God; and
renew a right spirit within me. {11} Cast me not away from thy presence;
and take not thy holy spirit from me. {12} Restore unto me the joy of thy
salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit."
"King Arthur had a
wife who next wanted Lancelot to seduce her".. this kind of demonic
fantasy is the unacceptable reality of many ungodly women even
today.
People who could approve of divorce, could also next
approve of abortion and would approve of murder next
too..
The people who get divorce on the average will increase their
health problems due to the related stress of a divorce, cause divorce is
from hell and not from God..
-and they never experience the
real fruit of the Holy Spirit of peace, gentleness.. during or
after...
- they will live on the average of 8 years less too.. all
of this just for a start.
With the measure you measure it
will be measured back to you.. for (Gal 6:7 KJV) Be not deceived;
God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.8
For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he
that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life
everlasting.
This verse still applies for all of her
false divorce supporters too.. I know of many many many selfish,
unrepentant Friends, neighbours, mothers who wrecked marriages.. lives..
and did not stop doing it too. they all also still needs to really
repent, get right with God, the wife and the husband
too..
God sees what people will be like at the end after they go
through much more hell on earth.. and then may admit how bad they are and
the world is.. we sadly really still cannot stop any of the
persons suffering really hard next too no matter how much we do care
for, really do love them, just like the prodigal son they too may
have to mostly learn the hard way take the long way home
too..
(Ezek 14:19 KJV) Or if I send a pestilence
into that land, and pour out my fury upon it in blood, to cut off from it
man and beast: 20 Though Noah, Daniel, and Job, were in it, as I
live, saith the Lord GOD, they shall deliver neither son nor daughter;
they shall but deliver their own souls by their righteousness. ...
23 And they shall comfort you, when ye see their ways and their
doings: and ye shall know that I have not done without cause all that I
have done in it, saith the Lord GOD.
(Gen 35:2 KJV) Then Jacob said unto his household, and to all
that were with him, Put away the strange
gods that are among you, and be clean, and change your
garments:
(Deu 17:12 KJV) And the man that will do presumptuously, and
will not hearken unto the priest that standeth to minister there before
the LORD thy God, or unto the judge, even that man shall die: and thou
shalt put away the evil from Israel.
(Deu 19:13 KJV) Thine eye shall not pity him, but thou shalt
put away the guilt of innocent blood from Israel, that it may go well with
thee.
(Josh 24:14 KJV) Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve
him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers
served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the
LORD.
(Josh 24:23 KJV) Now therefore put away, said he, the
strange gods which are among you, and incline your heart unto the LORD God
of Israel.
(Judg 10:16 KJV) And they put away the strange gods from among
them, and served the LORD:
(1 Sam 7:3 KJV) And Samuel spake unto all the house of Israel,
saying, If ye do return unto the LORD with all your hearts, then put away
the strange gods and Ashtaroth from among you, and prepare your hearts
unto the LORD, and serve him only: and he will deliver you out of the hand
of the Philistines.
(1 Sam 7:4 KJV) Then the children of Israel did put away Baalim
and Ashtaroth, and served the LORD only.
(1 Sam 28:3 KJV) Now Samuel was dead, and all Israel had
lamented him, and buried him in Ramah, even in his own city. And Saul
had put away those that had familiar spirits, and the wizards, out of the
land.
(2 Sam 7:15 KJV) But my mercy shall not depart away from him,
as I took it from Saul, whom I put away before thee.
(2 Sam 12:13 KJV) And David said unto Nathan, I have sinned
against the LORD. And Nathan said unto David, The LORD also hath put
away thy sin; thou shalt not die.
(2 Ki 3:2 KJV) And he wrought evil in the sight of the LORD;
but not like his father, and like his mother: for he put away the image
of Baal that his father had made.
(2 Ki 23:24 KJV) Moreover the workers with familiar spirits,
and the wizards, and the images, and the idols, and all the abominations
that were spied in the land of Judah and in Jerusalem, did Josiah put
away, that he might perform the words of the law which were written in the
book that Hilkiah the priest found in the house of the LORD.
(2 Chr 15:8 KJV) And when Asa heard these words, and the
prophecy of Oded the prophet, he took courage, and put away the abominable
idols out of all the land of Judah and Benjamin, and out of the cities
which he had taken from mount Ephraim, and renewed the altar of the LORD,
that was before the porch of the LORD.
(Est 8:3 KJV) And Esther spake yet again before the king, and
fell down at his feet, and besought him with tears to put away the
mischief of Haman the Agagite, and his device that he had devised against
the Jews.
(Job 22:23 KJV) If thou return to the Almighty, thou
shalt be built up, thou shalt put away iniquity far from thy
tabernacles.
(Psa 18:22 KJV) For all his judgments were before me,
and I did not put away his statutes from me.
(Prov 4:24 KJV) Put away from thee
a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from
thee.
(Ezek 43:9 KJV) Now let them put away their whoredom, and the
carcases of their kings, far from me, and I will dwell in the midst of
them for ever.
(1 Cor 13:11 KJV) When I was a child, I spake as a child, I
understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man,
I put away childish things.
(Eph 4:31 KJV) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and
clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with
all malice:
(1 Tim 1:19 KJV) Holding faith, and a good conscience;
which some having put away concerning faith have made
shipwreck:
(Heb 9:26 KJV) For then must he often have suffered since the
foundation of the world: but now once in the end of the world
hath he appeared to put away sin by the sacrifice of
himself.
Now how about putting away the strange
God of divorce rightfully away as well..
"In the US they have killed by abortion more than the
entire population of Canada. And it continues.." But many years ago God
told me firsthand that Christians hypocritically will speak out against
gays, abortions, drunks, pornography.. why hypocritically? for they rarely
speak out against divorce which cripples many persons for life.. at least
70 percent of marriages will wrongfully end up in divorce.. God did
not command divorce, as he hates divorce just as much as he hates any
other sin, making today's practice of divorce for even mere
incompatibility also still unacceptable to God.
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love
comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1
Jn.4:7-8)
" Divorce is a public
act of putting away a spouse through a written certificate of divorce in
the presence of the elders. The Greek word that is translated "divorce" is
"apoluo" which means "to send/put away". In those instances that it is
interpreted as "divorce" it is due to the context in which it is used. For
instance, the word is used in the sending away of the Canaanite woman when
the disciples said, "Send her
away, for she keeps crying out after us." (Mt.15:23 NIV). Even though this would have been a public act it wasn't in
the context of a husband and wife, hence it was translated as "Send her
away". Another use of this word is found when we read: "And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man, and not
wanting to disgrace her, desired to put her away secretly. "
(Mt.1:19 NASB) Even though this is a putting
away of someone who is betrothed, it should not be interpreted as divorce.
Since the marriage was not consummated, it could be done privately as
Joseph was going to do- divorce is public. However we can interpret it as
"divorce" when we read, "And it was said,
'Whoever sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate of
divorce." (Mt5:31 NASB) For even though there
is no mention of public awareness, but is accompanied by a certificate of
divorce it is correctly translated as divorce. Therefore the Bible does
not use a specific word for divorce for it merely means "to send or put
away"; the context dictates the translation."
Love also is more than an emotion, love is a commitment that
goes beyond how anyone feels. In this way we are not commanded to feel
love toward someone, we are commanded to have a personal, deliberate
attitude of of obedince, of manifesting love toward
firstly God, parents, our brothers and sisters, our spouse, and our
children as well, other believers.. It is a command and not an optional
emotion,
"The Pharisees asked, 'Is it lawful
for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?' 'Haven't you
read', Jesus replied, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and
female, and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are
no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together,
let man not separate.' 'Why
then,' they asked, 'did Moses command that a man give his
wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?' Jesus replied, 'Moses
permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard."
(Mt.19:3-8 NIV) Moses did not command divorce but
permitted it as was already being practiced due to the hardness of the
peoples' hearts- an unwillingness to yield to God's plan that they remain
together for life. The law itself , God's laws did not permit
divorce, not even for adultery in the Old Testament , it required stoning
to death for adultery.. and no New Testament law even permits divorce now
too, and separation or divorce does not give anyone a right still to
remarry now as well!!!
(Deu 22:22 KJV) If a man be found lying with a woman
married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that
lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from
Israel.
(Deu 22:24 KJV) Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate
of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the
damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he
hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among
you.
A common social
practice in Israel was that ""If a man marries a woman who becomes
displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and
he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her
from his house, and after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of
another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a
certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or
if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to
marry her again after she has been defiled. That still would
be detestable in the eyes of the Lord." (Dt.24:1-4 NIV)
It is important to notice that this law does
not institute divorce or place God's seal of approval on divorce, but
rather it starts: "if a man". The woman who was divorced and remarried was
considered defiled by God, implying that the divorce did not free her to
enter a second marriage covenant. The law was adamant that divorce did not
free the person to remarry:" Do you not know that he
who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For
it is said, "The two will become one flesh." (1
Co.6:16)
(Lev 21:7 KJV) They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or
profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he
is holy unto his God.(Jer 3:1 KJV) They say, If a man put
away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he
return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted?
but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me,
saith the LORD.
(Jer 4:1 KJV) If thou wilt return, O Israel, saith the LORD,
return unto me: and if thou wilt put away thine abominations out of my
sight, then shalt thou not remove.
(Ezek 44:22 KJV) Neither shall they take for their wives a
widow, nor her that is put away: but they shall take
maidens of the seed of the house of Israel, or a widow that had a priest
before.
(Hosea 2:2 KJV) Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not
my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her
whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her
breasts;
(Mat 5:31 KJV) It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his
wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
(Mat 5:32 KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put
away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit
adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth
adultery.
There is no possibility of divorce for two
married Christian spouses under any circumstances and those who practice
it are immoral persons..
For the very smart people.. I want you to
note that in the Bible, Old and New Testament, only a man could have
tried to divorce his wife.. divorce was never mandatory as
well.. and a women can never file for divorce.. Jewish or
Christian.. and there is no provision for divorce if both male/female
couple are professing Christians too. There is no provision for any gay
relationship or marriage. That is God, Christ's law, and man always
still has his own sinful ways for which he will pay a price too for
following after
it.
"Leadership
Landmines It happens all the time. Successful leaders--people with
great business acumen, great teams and great vision--are moving along,
growing their companies when, all of a sudden, they fall flat on their
faces. Their businesses start hemorrhaging money. Their best people
start jumping ship. Their families start falling apart. And they sit at
their desks with their heads in their hands wondering, "How did this
happen? "I'll tell you how it happened. They were blown up by a problem
they never saw coming.- Dr. John C. Maxwell "
(Nahum 1:3 KJV) The LORD is slow to
anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD
hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the
dust of his feet.
(Prov 29:18 KJV)
Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law,
happy is he.
Here is some more irony, the last verse is
one of the most misquoted verses too that I have come across.. the people
who quote it leave out the part "but he that keepeth the law, happy is
he." any proper pastoral vision must include him or her observing still
God's laws.. all of them now too. That includes God's laws on divorce..
there is no divorce for two married Christian believers under any
circumstances.. under any circumstances.. God said so.
The Church can't be claiming to fulfill the
great commission of bringing people to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ
and yet allowing divorce, or abusing, even persecuting their own
members for a start.. I find it very tragic, pathetic, comical the church
speaks out against abortions, gays, but not against divorce... or church
splits... and yet God hates divorce, and God punishes those who
abuse others. It is not enough to preach some truth to others one has also
to personally to live it. Pastors and leaders included.
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For the LORD, the God of
Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with
his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit,
that ye deal not treacherously.
GOD HATES DIVORCE AND EVEN ANY OF
THE PASTORS WHO COUNSEL DIVORCE THEY WILL ALSO NEXT WILL REAP
NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES, A GARMENT OF VIOLENCE AS WELL...
(Gal 6:7
KJV) Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man
soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh
shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall
of the Spirit reap life everlasting.
(Mat
18:5 KJV) And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name
receiveth me. 6 But whoso shall offend one of these little ones
which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged
about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. 7
Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences
come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh! 8 Wherefore if
thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee:
it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than
having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire. 9 And
if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is
better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two
eyes to be cast into hell fire. 10 Take heed that ye despise not one
of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do
always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven.
The Church itself too often and clearly does
not practice this too
(Mat 18:11 KJV) For the Son of man is
come to save that which was lost. 12 How think ye? if a man have an
hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the
ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is
gone astray? 13 And if so be that he find it, verily I say unto you,
he rejoiceth more of that sheep, than of the ninety and nine which went
not astray. 14 Even so it is not the will of your Father which is in
heaven, that one of these little ones should perish.
or this..
(Mat 18:15 KJV) Moreover if thy brother
shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and
him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16
But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in
the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church:
but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen
man and a publican. 18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall
bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on
earth shall be loosed in heaven. 19 Again I say unto you, That if
two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask,
it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. 20 For
where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the
midst of them.
In fact the above verses are so often
misquoted and are not mentioned that the direct context is still to
disciplining a wayward brother or sister in Christ,
(John 13:35 KJV) By this shall all
men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to
another.
God respects your own free will and
he expects you also to exercise it properly still!
(Luke 17:32 KJV) Remember
Lot's wife.33 Whosoever shall seek to
save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall
preserve it.
(Phil 3:19 KJV) Whose
end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in
their shame, who mind earthly things.)
(1 Sam 15:22 KJV) And Samuel
said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices,
as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than
sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams.
(2 Sam 6:6 KJV) And
when they came to Nachon's threshingfloor, Uzzah put forth his hand to
the ark of God, and took hold of it; for the oxen shook it. 7 And
the anger of the LORD was kindled against Uzzah; and God smote him there
for his error; and there he died by the ark of God.
(1 Sam 3:13 KJV) For I have
told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he
knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them
not.(Ezek 7:3 KJV) Now is the end come upon thee, and I will send
mine anger upon thee, and will judge thee according to thy ways, and
will recompense upon thee all thine abominations. (Jude 1:15
KJV) To execute judgment upon all, and to convince all that are
ungodly among them of all their ungodly deeds which they have ungodly
committed, and of all their hard speeches which ungodly sinners have
spoken against him. (Ezek 16:38 KJV) And I will judge thee, as
women that break wedlock and shed blood are judged; and I will give thee
blood in fury and jealousy.(Ezek 21:30 KJV) Shall I cause it to
return into his sheath? I will judge thee in the place where thou wast
created, in the land of thy nativity.(Ezek 34:20 KJV) Therefore
thus saith the Lord GOD unto them; Behold, I, even I, will judge between
the fat cattle and between the lean cattle. (Acts 17:31 KJV) Because he hath appointed a day, in the
which he will judge the world in righteousness by that man whom he hath
ordained; whereof he hath given assurance unto all men, in that he hath
raised him from the dead. (Heb 13:4
KJV) Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but
whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (2 Pet 2:3 KJV)
And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make merchandise
of you: whose judgment now of a long time lingereth not, and their
damnation slumbereth not.(Phil 1:9 KJV) And this I pray, that your
love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all
judgment; (1 Pet 4:17 KJV) For the time is come that
judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us,
what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? (2 Pet
2:9 KJV) The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of
temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be
punished: (John 5:14 KJV)
Behold, thou art made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto
thee.
Too many people too readily accept professing
Christians persons now as being real Christians. Many people still do fail
to realize beforehand that the person that now they are even selecting on
their own possibly for their mate may have unresolved personal issues,
major sins that will next have serious an adverse effect not only on their
marriage, relationship but even on others as well. We need God's wisdom to
know what some people are now really like still too.
The major
preoccupation of too many persons today of the making of money in our
society today is too often justified as an essential personal need,
even too often now a false governmental priority, and even at
all costs, too often wrongfully allowing even the commitment of
personal immoralities in the process as well. There is still a
difference still between meeting one's essential needs by working, as
opposed to one immorally stealing it, or lying to get it too,
and also next going overboard to aquire wealth mainly fulfill one's
lusts too.
Furtheremore Man is composed
body, soul and sprit, and having a spouse, a person who only meets one's
body needs is clearly not enough, nor in fact is it enough next to
have friendship only at the soulish level as well. Man has a spiritual
vacuum that he seeks to be filled as well. Marriage is one way some people
try to fill in the void they feel. Earthly Marriage it itself is never an
adequate solution for all of your needs firstly as well. We all need
to daily be mindful of this truth now too. The truths mentioned here are
important for us all, always too.
Not only do we have false
religious teachers today but note this we also have false wives,
wives or husbands) who have a false concept of what marriage really
is, to the false wife the marriage is a slavery, an act of the husband's
total, false submission to fulfill all the needs, expectation of the
wife... which eventually ends up in a divorce as a direct result
too.
False
preachers even today still often tell the people that God will bless them
even though they have clearly rejected personally following after God and
his way.Their false leaders do not tell them the real reason they are
still suffering, cause they have sinfully, self centrally, wrongfully
reject Jesus Christ, the God and His way, his will for them.. God's
judgments similar falls of the false, professing Christians who have
rejected God and his way. Not only do we have false religious
teachers today but note this we also have false wives, wives ( or
husbands) who have a false concept of what marriage really is, to the
false wife the marriage is a slavery, an act of the husband's total, false
submission to fulfill all the needs, expectation of the wife... which
eventually ends up in a divorce as a direct result too.
Three
reasons for many failed marriages include- personal laziness, unrealistic
marital goals and expectations, secular priorities.. and note this the
real garbage that people do personally still bring with them into
their marriage.. their own poor values too.
I
have no doubt in my mind that like too many others I am too liberal, too
soft on the personal sins that are being committed by many persons
but God is not!
This
passage below deals with the case of a woman who was accused of breaking
her marriage vows by reason of extra-marital sexual activities, that is to
say, of a married woman accused of sexual
unfaithfulness.
(Num 5:12 KJV) Speak unto the
children of Israel, and say unto them, If any man's wife go aside, and
commit a trespass against him, 13
And a man lie with her carnally, and it be hid from the eyes of her
husband, and be kept close, and she be defiled, and there be no witness
against her, neither she be taken with the manner; 14 And the
spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she
be defiled: or if the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be
jealous of his wife, and she be not defiled: 15 Then shall the man
bring his wife unto the priest, and he shall bring her offering for her,
the tenth part of an ephah of barley meal; he shall pour no oil upon it,
nor put frankincense thereon; for it is an offering of jealousy, an
offering of memorial, bringing iniquity to remembrance. 16 And the
priest shall bring her near, and set her before the LORD: 17 And
the priest shall take holy water in an earthen vessel; and of the dust
that is in the floor of the tabernacle the priest shall take, and put it
into the water: 18 And the priest shall set the woman before the
LORD, and uncover the woman's head, and put the offering of memorial in
her hands, which is the jealousy offering: and the priest shall have in
his hand the bitter water that causeth the curse:19 And the priest
shall charge her by an oath, and say unto the woman, If no man have lain
with thee, and if thou hast not gone aside to uncleanness with another
instead of thy husband, be thou free from this bitter water that causeth
the curse: 20 But if thou hast gone aside to another instead of
thy husband, and if thou be defiled, and some man have lain with thee
beside thine husband: 21 Then the priest shall charge the woman
with an oath of cursing, and the priest shall say unto the woman, The
LORD make thee a curse and an oath among thy people, when the LORD doth
make thy thigh to rot, and thy belly to swell; 22 And this water
that causeth the curse shall go into thy bowels, to make thy belly to
swell, and thy thigh to rot: And the woman shall say, Amen,
amen.
(Num 5:23 KJV) And the
priest shall write these curses in a book, and he shall blot them out
with the bitter water: 24 And he shall cause the woman to drink
the bitter water that causeth the curse: and the water that causeth the
curse shall enter into her, and become bitter. 25 Then the priest
shall take the jealousy offering out of the woman's hand, and shall wave
the offering before the LORD, and offer it upon the altar: 26 And
the priest shall take an handful of the offering, even the memorial
thereof, and burn it upon the altar, and afterward shall cause the woman
to drink the water. 27 And when he hath made her to drink the
water, then it shall come to pass, that, if she be defiled, and have
done trespass against her husband, that the water that causeth the curse
shall enter into her, and become bitter, and her belly shall swell, and
her thigh shall rot: and the woman shall be a curse among her
people. 28 And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean;
then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed. 29 This is the
law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside to another instead of her
husband, and is defiled; 30 Or when the spirit of jealousy cometh
upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman
before the LORD, and the priest shall execute upon her all this law.
31 Then shall the man be guiltless from iniquity, and this
woman shall bear her iniquity.
Today
too many people take sexual infidelity as a joke, much too lightly.. God
himself also acting in a role of a the husband does not!!! God
himself does enforce the punishement for this sin now as
well....
(Prov 2:16 KJV) To deliver thee from
the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her
words; 17 Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth
the covenant of her God.18 For her house inclineth unto death, and
her paths unto the dead. 19 None that go unto her return again,
neither take they hold of the paths of life. 20 That thou mayest
walk in the way of good men, and keep the paths of the
righteous.
(Psa 106:13 KJV) They soon forgat his
works; they waited not for his counsel:14 But lusted exceedingly
in the wilderness, and tempted God in the desert.
(1 Cor 10:6 KJV) Now these things
were our examples, to the intent we should not lust after evil things,
as they also lusted. 7 Neither be ye idolaters, as were some of
them; as it is written, The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose
up to play. 8 Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them
committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand. 9
Neither let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were
destroyed of serpents. 10 Neither murmur ye, as some of them also
murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer. 11 Now all these
things happened unto them for ensamples: and they are written for our
admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come. 12 Wherefore
let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.
(Rev 18:4 KJV) And I heard
another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye
be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues.
5 For her sins have reached unto heaven, and God hath remembered
her iniquities. 6 Reward her even as she rewarded you, and double
unto her double according to her works: in the cup which she hath filled
fill to her double. 7 How much she hath glorified herself, and
lived deliciously, so much torment and sorrow give her: for she saith in
her heart, I sit a queen, and am no widow, and shall see no sorrow.
8 Therefore shall her plagues come in one day, death, and
mourning, and famine; and she shall be utterly burned with fire: for
strong is the Lord God who judgeth her. 9 And the kings of the
earth, who have committed fornication and lived deliciously with her,
shall bewail her, and lament for her, when they shall see the smoke of
her burning, 10 Standing afar off for the fear of her torment,
saying, Alas, alas that great city Babylon, that mighty city! for in one
hour is thy judgment come. 11 And the merchants of the earth shall
weep and mourn over her; for no man buyeth their merchandise any more:
12 The merchandise of gold, and silver, and precious stones, and
of pearls, and fine linen, and purple, and silk, and scarlet, and all
thyine wood, and all manner vessels of ivory, and all manner vessels of
most precious wood, and of brass, and iron, and marble, 13 And
cinnamon, and odours, and ointments, and frankincense, and wine, and
oil, and fine flour, and wheat, and beasts, and sheep, and horses, and
chariots, and slaves, and souls of men. 14 And the fruits that thy
soul lusted after are departed from thee, and all things which were
dainty and goodly are departed from thee, and thou shalt find them no
more at all. 15 The merchants of these things, which were made
rich by her, shall stand afar off for the fear of her torment, weeping
and wailing, 16 And saying, Alas, alas, that great city, that was
clothed in fine linen, and purple, and scarlet, and decked with gold,
and precious stones, and pearls! 17 For in one hour so great
riches is come to nought. And every shipmaster, and all the company in
ships, and sailors, and as many as trade by sea, stood afar off,
18 And cried when they saw the smoke of her burning, saying, What
city is like unto this great city! 19 And they cast dust on their
heads, and cried, weeping and wailing, saying, Alas, alas, that great
city, wherein were made rich all that had ships in the sea by reason of
her costliness! for in one hour is she made desolate. 20
Rejoice over her, thou heaven, and ye holy apostles and prophets; for
God hath avenged you on her. 21 And a mighty angel took up a stone
like a great millstone, and cast it into the sea, saying, Thus with
violence shall that great city Babylon be thrown down, and shall be
found no more at all. 22 And the voice of harpers, and musicians,
and of pipers, and trumpeters, shall be heard no more at all in thee;
and no craftsman, of whatsoever craft he be, shall be found any more in
thee; and the sound of a millstone shall be heard no more at all in
thee; 23 And the light of a candle shall shine no more at all in
thee; and the voice of the bridegroom and of the bride shall be heard no
more at all in thee: for thy merchants were the great men of the earth;
for by thy sorceries were all nations deceived. 24 And in
her was found the blood of prophets, and of saints, and of all that were
slain upon the earth.
One unrepentant sin generally leads to many others too.. One
also cannot live separated from Jesus as Lord, and then expect any
kind of personal blessing, prosperity, happiness, it never cannot happen
at all too. It is all God's way or no way! We all cannot
neglect the essential element of of our personal faith, of each one of us
trusting in God to provide for us what we need still too. Not rather
trusting in our spouse,, family, government.
"I am the true vine, and my Father is the
husbandman. Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he taketh away:
and every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth it, that it may bring
forth more fruit. Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken
unto you. Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of
itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in
me. I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in
him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do
nothing.
"If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth
as a branch, and is withered: and men gather them, and cast them into
the fire, and they are burned. If ye abide in me, and my words abide in
you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you. Herein is
my Father glorified that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my
disciples. As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye
in my love.
"If ye keep my commandments ye shall abide
in my love: even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in
his love. These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain
in you, and that your joy might be full. This is my commandment, That ye
love one another, as I have loved you. Greater love hath no man than
this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends,
if ye do whatsoever I command you." John
15:1-14.
"But if we walk in the light, as he
is in the light we have fellowship one with another," -- and this we have
brought out so many times -- You see, beloved, the only way you can tell
that a person really has fellowship with the Father and his Son is through
a positive fellowship and a relationship with others. Our abiding with God
, for the most part, still involves also maintain an earthly loving
relationship with others,our spouses included. Abiding is something
that we realy do not and merely give lip service too.
"and the blood of Jesus Christ his
Son cleanseth us from all sin." That's part of the same statement which
says "if we walk in the light, as he is in the light we have fellowship
one with another." That is part of the same declaration of truth. But if
we do not walk in the light as he is in the light, what about the blood
then? Would there be cleansing? No, there would not be. There would be
defilement. This cleansing is a continuing thing. And this abiding is a
necessary thing if we maintain cleansing.
One the saddest thing in the world
is an unhappy, lost, no longer Christian prodigal, a dog that has returned
to it;'s vomit, one that is not enjoying the loving fellowship of one's
spouse, or of the Christian brethren, and certainly not rejoicing in
prayer and over the word of God.
(Rev 3:19 KJV) As many as I
love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and
repent.
(Rev 3:20 KJV) Behold, I
stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the
door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with
me.
(Rev 3:21 KJV) To him that
overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also
overcame, and am set down with my Father in his
throne.
To
overcome, means to overcome these personal sins mentioned above, even the
sins of tolerating, allowing divorces wrongfully too, sins of abusing
others..
(Mat 3:7 KJV) But when he saw many of
the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism, he said unto them, O
generation of vipers, who hath warned you to flee from the wrath to
come? 8 Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance: 9
And think not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father:
for I say unto you, that God is able of these stones to raise up
children unto Abraham. 10 And now also the ax is laid unto the
root of the trees: therefore every tree which bringeth not forth good
fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. 11 I indeed baptize
you with water unto repentance: but he that cometh after me is mightier
than I, whose shoes I am not worthy to bear: he shall baptize you with
the Holy Ghost, and with fire: 12 Whose fan is in his hand, and he
will thoroughly purge his floor, and gather his wheat into the garner;
but he will burn up the chaff with unquenchable
fire.
More than
one, visibly wicked, immoral pastors have told me that we are not
allowed to speak out against, about the sins of bad evangelical
pastors.. well it is very obvious that the prophets, and Jesus
himself disagreed, they called them as well to repentance. All it takes
for evil to prosper is for good people to do nothing about it still. God
will do his part but we have to do our part, which includes asking them to
repent as well now.
(Mat 12:33 KJV) Either make
the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and
his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit.
(Mat 23:29 KJV) Woe unto you,
scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! because ye build the tombs of the
prophets, and garnish the sepulchres of the righteous,
(Mat 25:14 KJV) For the
kingdom of heaven is as a man travelling into a far country, who called
his own servants, and delivered unto them his goods. 15 And unto
one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every
man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey.
16 Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with
the same, and made them other five talents. 17 And likewise he
that had received two, he also gained other two. 18 But he that
had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord's
money. 19 After a long time the lord of those servants
cometh, and reckoneth with them. 20 And so he that had received
five talents came and brought other five talents, saying, Lord, thou
deliveredst unto me five talents: behold, I have gained beside them five
talents more. 21 His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and
faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make
thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
22 He also that had received two talents came and said, Lord, thou
deliveredst unto me two talents: behold, I have gained two other talents
beside them. 23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and
faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make
thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
24 Then he which had received the one talent came and said, Lord,
I knew thee that thou art an hard man, reaping where thou hast not sown,
and gathering where thou hast not strowed: 25 And I was afraid,
and went and hid thy talent in the earth: lo, there thou hast that is
thine. 26 His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and
slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather
where I have not strowed: 27 Thou oughtest therefore to have put
my money to the exchangers, and then at my coming I should have received
mine own with usury. 28 Take therefore the talent from him, and
give it unto him which hath ten talents. 29 For unto every one
that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that
hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. 30 And cast
ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping
and gnashing of teeth.
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV) Them that
sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear. 21 I charge thee
before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou
observe these things without preferring one before another, doing
nothing by partiality.
(Titus 3:1 KJV) Put them in mind to
be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be
ready to every good work, 2 To speak evil of no man, to be no
brawlers, but gentle, showing all meekness unto all
men.
(James 3:12 KJV) Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive
berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water
and fresh. 13 Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among
you? let him show out of a good conversation his works with meekness of
wisdom.
(Mat 5:13 KJV) Ye are the salt of the
earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be
salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to
be trodden under foot of men.
(Mark 9:50 KJV) Salt is good: but if the salt have lost his
saltness, wherewith will ye season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have
peace one with another.
(Mat 5:16 KJV) Let your light so
shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your
Father which is in heaven.
(1 Tim 5:21 KJV) I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus
Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without
preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality.
(Acts 17:30 KJV) And the times of this ignorance God winked
at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: 31 Because
he hath appointed a day, in the which he will judge the world in
righteousness by that man whom he hath ordained; whereof he hath given
assurance unto all men, in that he hath raised him from the dead.
(Acts 3:19 KJV) Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that
your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come
from the presence of the Lord; 20 And he shall send Jesus Christ,
which before was preached unto you:
(1 Cor 5:13 KJV) But them that are without
God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked
person.
(Isa 1:16 KJV) Wash you, make you clean; put
away the evil of your doings from before mine eyes; cease to do
evil;
(Mat 21:28 KJV) But what think ye? A
certain man had two sons; and he came to the first, and said, Son, go
work to day in my vineyard. 29 He
answered and said, I will not: but afterward he repented, and went.
30 And he came to the second, and said likewise. And he answered
and said, I go, sir: and went not. 31 Whether of them twain did
the will of his father? They say unto him, The first. Jesus saith unto
them, Verily I say unto you, That the publicans and the harlots go into
the kingdom of God before you.
A house divided against itself cannot
stand (Mark 3:25) applies to the Churches, and
our homes, and our marriages too.
Freely send this page to anyone, for we all need to read
and apply it.
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