After it was suggested to me that I do a  special section for ministers wives, I began at once to run mentally through the avenues of my mind searching in every nook and cranny to find just the "right" directions to lead you. I want to thank you first of all for your time and for allowing me to try to make an impression upon your minds and hearts.

Only God knows how many different paths I have been down during my lifetime to find my own fulfillment, and I certainly do not wish to lead you out into some barren desert land and have you to come to the end of these lessons singing the song "Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered."

  In my own experience and research down through the years, I have found that most ministers wives are talented, creative, conscientious and really caring people, that really love that their husbands are  ministers, and do everything in their power to help them and their ministry work succeed.

 I have, on the other hand, seen some great men in ministry work that could not reach their potential as ministers, simply because the wife felt like she could not live up to the demands that were put on her as such - let's face it, ministers wives, our husband's profession is the ONLY profession that needs the wife to really help her husband succeed.  Lawyers do not need their wives to help them defend clients, doctors do not need their wives in the operating room, but ministers DO NEED THEIR WIVES, especially in the pastoral ministry of a church.  Often pastor's wives spend many many hours of their valuable time that could be spent with their families or following their own personal career, to serve the church as teacher, church secretary, music director, Children's Church Director, nursery worker, janitor, women's auxiliary presidents, even help to build parsonages, raising funds for necessary work of the church, the list could just go on and on.  

Oh, how blessed is the minister who has a wife that will and can be fulfilled in her husband's ministry as a help mate to him! And oh, how many are the blessings that God will bestow upon that ministry team of husband and wife that love their work with fallen, hurting humanity that needs a Saviour!

Young ministers wives have asked me, "What things can I do or not do as a minister's wife?  They really wished to become successful minister's wives, that was their priority goal.  And what they were concerned about was what can a minister's wife do to avoid being accused of doing too much --- or not enough?  In some cases the minister's wife expects too much of herself.  In other cases she feels the congregation expects too much of her.  Added to her frustration is the temptation to feel that her life is on display - - especially spotlighting her inability to live up to everyone's expectations.
 

I find that we, as ministers wives, come from all backgrounds of life, having little or no training for our work in the ministry. It seems to me that we are expected to have all the answers before knowing any of the questions!  I think most people think that our growth as effective partners to our minister husbands is just automatic.  You know, it does make you wonder -  Do people think we are instant modified saints just because we are married to ministers? Does washing his shirts, preparing his meals, sleeping in the same bed with him make us spiritual leaders?  No, it certainly does not! 
 

It makes no difference whether or not our husbands  are ministers; our own personal commitment to the Lord has to be an individual  one. It does not come automatically to us when we marry our minister. It is so much more than a positional responsibility; it is our personal response to God.  Now having made this commitment to God, we are first and most important Christians; it is secondary that we share the ministry by marriage.

    Strive to measure up to God's standard for a Christian wife according to His Word--- not whether you measure up to the world's or a denominational's concept of what you should be and do as  a minister's wife!

Be sure and watch this site for other helpful items on subjects listed below pertaining to ministers wives. - that will hopefully be of benefit to you as you struggle to help your minister husband! These pages are in the construction assembly line at this moment.