"A few months before I was born, my dad met a stranger who was
new to our small Tennessee town. From the beginning, Dad
was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer, and soon invited
him to live with our family. The stranger was quickly
accepted and was around to welcome me into the world a few
months later.
As I grew up I never questioned his place in our family. In
my young mind, each member had a special niche. My brother,
Bill, five years my senior, was my example. Fran, my
younger sister, gave me an opportunity to play 'big brother' and
develop the art of teasing. My parents were complementary
instructors - Mom taught me to love the word of God, and Dad
taught me to obey it.
But the stranger was our storyteller. He could weave the
most fascinating tales. Adventures, mysteries and comedies
were daily conversations. He could hold our whole family
spell-bound for hours each evening.
If I wanted to know about politics, history, or science, he knew
it all. He knew about the past, understood the present, and
seemingly could predict the future. The pictures he could
draw were so life like that I would often laugh or cry as I
watched.
He was Iike a friend to the whole family. He took Dad, Bill
and me to our first major league baseball game. He was
always encouraging us to see the movies and he even made
arrangements to introduce us to several movie stars. My
brother and I were deeply impressed by John Wayne in particular.
The stranger was an incessant talker. Dad didn' t seem to
mind, but sometimes Mom would quietly get up and go to her room,
read her Bible and pray, while the rest of us were enthralled
with one of his stories of faraway places. I wonder now if
she ever prayed that the stranger would leave.
You see, my dad ruled our household with certain moral
convictions. But this stranger never felt obligation to
honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our
house - not from us, from our friends, or adults. Our
longtime visitor, however, used occasional four letter words
that burned my ears and made Dad squirm. To my knowledge
the stranger was never confronted. My dad was a tea-totaler,
who didn't permit alcohol in his home, not even for cooking. But
the stranger felt 1ike we needed exposure and enlightened us to
other ways of life. He offered us beer and other alcoholic
beverages often.
He made cigarettes look tasty, cigars manly, and pipes
distinguished. He talked freely (probably too much too
freely) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant,
sometimes sugestive, and generally embarrassing. I know now
that my early concepts of the man-woman relationship were
influenced by the stranger.
As I look back, I believe it was the grace of God that the
stranger did not influence us more. Time after time he
opposed the values of my parents. Yet he was seldom rebuked
and never asked to leave.
More than thirty years have passed since the stranger moved in
with the young family on Morningside Drive. He is not
nearly so intriguing to my Dad as he was in those early
years. But if I were to walk into my parents' den today,
you would still see him sitting over in a corner, waiting for
someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his pictures.
- Told by Keith Currie -
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