When I sit and think about the time when I got married, I had no idea

how to have one My parents divorced when I was

9, I didn't remember much before then. I flew into

married life, without a second thought to what I was

doing, or how I was going to do it.

LIFE OUGHT TO NOT BE THIS WAY.

Getting married is one of the most important steps to your life,

second to that is having a godly home and thirdly, raising children.

SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY,

if you aren't careful, you take the chance of getting

lost yourself. But if you take the time that is needed

to prepare yourself, you wont.

DO YOU HAVE A PLAN ?

There is so much to think about, so much to plan and

you know what, You shouldn't do it alone. It would be

much easier if you were a Christian who was on the

right pathin life. But Im not real sure how often

that really happens.

WHAT DO YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE AND WHAT DO YOU EXPECT?

You and your love need to sit down and talk about how you

want to live, who is going to work,

what each of you expect from one another. You need to discuss

how you want to raise yourchildren. They should not have

to suffer because they have parents who

don't care enough to talk

AGREE ON THE IMPORTANT THINGS.

You and your love need to agree on the important things in

your personal life. There should be no abuse, no

threatening, no degradation, no uneasiness

in all areas of married life.

The relationship you have with your husband, it where it all begins.

And you need to make sure that your relationship is built on

Gods Foundation. I know that most of the time we fall in love

and we don't take the time to ask questions about our loves

spiritual standing, but that should be one of the first things,

that you do agree on.

Ask your upcoming spouse, all kinds of questions and be sure

and share your thoughts at the same time. Your voice will be the

guiding force in your family and you need to be able to communicate

with your spouse about all things.

It is important that you take time out for your own spiritual growth,

now and forever. That includes when you are run ragged and

feeling like you can't handle one more thing on your daily to do

list. But you can't ignore God. God is your life force and without

Him in the center of your marriage, your soul and your homelife,

it will never work.

If you feel like you are in danger in your relationship, if you

feel like your opinion don't count. Ask yourself if this is the kind of

relationship that you want to be in for the rest of your life. Don't go

into a marriage, thinking you can change your love to what you want

him to be, cause life don't work that way.

It is hard to grow up and break away from your own parents running

your life, but I can tell you that responsibility only belongs to you.

Your parents dont owe you a life,They cared for you while you were

growing up, its your job to do it once you leave home.

Last but not least, It is important that you and your love

start attending church together,doing

bible study together and just as importantly, praying together.